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Depressed boyfriend ended relationship

Anna88Senior Contributor27 Dec 2017, 9:54 pm AEDT

Depressed boyfriend ended relationship

Hi. I was dating a guy for 8 years, and 6 weeks ago he abruptly ended the relationship because of his depression. We spoke about 3 weeks ago and he said that he will start counselling and if it goes well we can get back together. He said he doesn't even understand why he ended the relationship. Does anyone have any experience with a similar situation? His depression was caused by a family situation and not by our relationship, he said a few time I was the happy part of his life.

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Anna88Senior Contributor03 Jan 2018, 10:50 pm AEDT

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Thank you. I find it hard to try my best when he doesn't want any contact at the moment. I'm worried he will forget all about me and how nice our relationship was.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor04 Jan 2018, 1:30 am AEDT

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Our fears play on our minds if we let them in @Anna88 ..... just park up the worry for later when you know better what is going on and take a break from it now, cos it’s all just second-guessing and you will tie yourself up in knots over something that might never happen ..... just keep telling yourself “one step at a time, and the time to worry about that is not here yet”.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor12 Jan 2018, 10:02 am AEDT

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Hi @Anna88 ?

Are you okay ?

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Anna88Senior Contributor12 Jan 2018, 10:12 am AEDT

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Sorry, I went back to reread the posts to cheer myself up and somehow managed to post a blank msg!

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Anna88Senior Contributor12 Jan 2018, 10:12 am AEDT

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And then couldn't work out how to delete it

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor12 Jan 2018, 10:46 am AEDT

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Don’t worry @Anna88 .... we all do that. I think the mods come through sometimes and remove the blank posts, so not to worry ❣️

I am sorry you are feeling down. Do you want to talk about it ?

I wall tag you from a couple of social threads, but just ignore them if you are not up for company.

💐💜

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Anna88Senior Contributor12 Jan 2018, 10:50 am AEDT

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Thanks. Just feeling a bit sad and missing him a lot. I still can't quite believe he's gone when there was very little wrong with our relationship. Just hoping he realises how positive and happy it was and comes back eventually.

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Unknown userMember12 Jan 2018, 10:50 am AEDT

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No worries @Anna88 we got rid of the empty post - like @Faith-and-Hope said, happens to the best of us!

Glad you are getting some great support here

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor12 Jan 2018, 11:12 am AEDT

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I hope so too @Anna88. Are to taking care of yourself to help you cope with the sadness ? Do you have a self-care activity of some sort to occupy you today ?

I am visiting my brother and new-ish sister-in-law in the country. I managed 9 hours sleep last night, which was a bit of a shocker, but it must be doing me good to be away from our family strife. I visited my Dad and sister in a different direction in the country last week. They live a days drive away from me so it hasn’t been easy to leave what is going on to come and visit, but I have started to jump on other modes of transport. I need my family and they need me. This has been pending far too long.

Do you have family around ?

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Anna88Senior Contributor12 Jan 2018, 11:17 am AEDT

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That sounds nice for you 🙂
I've got today off from uni so I'm going to do some baking and watch the tennis. I don't have many family around (my immediate family live interstate) but my Aunty called this morning and she's organising a little party for my 30th at the end of January when I'm down her way so that made me feel really nice.

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