Lessons for the year

@NatalieS Well I was feeling really sorry for myself last night just alot of stuff going on in my head but am alot better now thanks and hearing about your young man well that is exciting. It is always nice to have attention by someone who is particularly nice and good looking as well!!!!! Particularly when you hit that certain age when you become invisible, not saying that you are but talking about this little pea.

Anyway, I am fine now thanks I cannot complain 😄

Hugs for you little @Bunniekins

you are always so supportive, which is much appreciated.

why does all that negative self-talk stuff go round and round and mess with our heads? or if our medication isn't right? Hoping you have a better night tonight.

yes, I am at that invisible age but inside I am a total child, and I don't think I'll ever grow up.

Take care.

@NatalieS Me too NatalieS xxx

@Kmay Hi Kmay welcome to the boards. You definately have not been a downer at all .. maybe you would like to check out our Christmas thread it might perk you up a bit. Don't worry the future is not set in concrete says an old, old greenpea 😄

@Kmay Merry Christmas to you too

I love this idea for a thread. I feel ive learn a lot this year

1. ive learnt to step back from both the online and offline realm. I am not super woman. I cannot do everything so its ok to take a step back from certain things and step back up when necessary or when I feel is needed.

2. ive learnt that self care is not selfish and that its necessary to put the oxygen mask on myself before I can help others

3. ive learn many new coping strategies that have been keeping me safe.

4. I cant change those around me, I can change however myself and how I react to things.

5. I need to be comfotable within myself before dating- dating was a huge worry to me and it was something I thought I was missin out on. My time will come soon enough.

6. I have learnt hat just because I have both mental and physical illnesses I dont have to live under the label. I can still be me.

7. ive learnt to do only what I can where I can. Survival mode. I only had one mode before and that was flat out. Ive learnt to slow down and think and breathe too.

8. Trust. Ive learnt to trust a very very few people more specifically online but that its a huge step considering I trust no one and barely myself. But ive also learnt to be more weary about what I say and do to those around me.

I still have ALOT to learn but this is a start

Hi @outlander

You have learned a lot this year - this is fantastic to read and I have been there through so much of your battle. I was very glad for you when I read your list

And there will always be more to learn - there is always something else to learn - maybe one reason for our lives is that we learn

I'll just comment on the idea of dating - you are right - your time will come soon enough - I was not thinking about dating at all when I met my husband. As it turns out we were both studying at night school and intent on that and we saw each other in classes for months before we even started talking to each and we never know what is around the corner

I wish you the best Christmas possible - the first in the house with your Pop - I hope it goes the best it can for both of you

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