TheVorticonSenior Contributor
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Like @Faith-and-Hope I would really miss seeing you around if you left @TheVorticon. That's not to say that you should stay if it isn't right for you, but more to say that I really enjoy seeing you here. I know you're not really a tagger in to threads when you're feeling down, but the offer is still there if you'd like to tag me. I'd come by if I could, as I know others would also.
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TheVorticonSenior Contributor
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I dunno.
Thurs night was bad, then Friday was worse and wasn't helped by the lack of sleep on Thurs.
Annoyed that the mindspot person didn't get back to me this week after not answering my question last week.
Annoyed at myself for being too different. That other people can talk seemingly effortlessly while my brain's blank, drawing blood from a stone.
Not worth making decisions when I feel like that. But I just feel like such a physically and mentally weak person.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Like = hearing you @TheVorticon ......
Do you think that maybe you are being harder on yourself than you would be towards somebody else ?
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TheVorticonSenior Contributor
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Not really @Faith-and-Hope, I'd be pretty pissed off with anyone else who was like this.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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I can hear that you’re angry @TheVorticon .... I tend to do something physical like going for a walk when I am angry .... it burns up the adrenaline that is produced and tends to wind down the angry feelings.
Going for a hot shower can help too.
There is sorting out to be done, but angry feelings can cloud the issues, as you suggested above, so maybe deal with the anger management side of things first ?
The. Maybe you can start to plan to make some changes in your life that feel more productive / suited to how you want to be and what you want to do with your life.
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TheVorticonSenior Contributor
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Well I'm not acutely angry @Faith-and-Hope so there's no excess adrenaline, except for reading your post as if it was meant to have an accusitory tone.
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Hi @TheVorticon - i find it so hard to know what to say and how when im talking to people in the real world. I am too serious and find light chatter hard often. I'm better one to one with people as in larger groups i just get lost with trying to keep up with everything. I also get so frustrated and angry with myself at times because i just want to feel/be 'normal' or whatever i think normal is as being easier than how things are i guess!
I did the mindspot course or one of them, i only communicated by email, some of the stuff in the course was helpful but it probably wasnt a great time situationally for me to be trying to make changes right then... I'm looking at doing an ACT online course through the happiness trap website but it costs... and not sure i have the energy to do it right now and dont want to waste my money (im good at excuses at the moment huh!)... Hope the person from mindspot gets back to you asap.
Take care
I did the mindspot course or one of them, i only communicated by email, some of the stuff in the course was helpful but it probably wasnt a great time situationally for me to be trying to make changes right then... I'm looking at doing an ACT online course through the happiness trap website but it costs... and not sure i have the energy to do it right now and dont want to waste my money (im good at excuses at the moment huh!)... Hope the person from mindspot gets back to you asap.
Take care
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Not meant to have an accusatory tone at all @TheVorticon ..... I am sorry if it came across that way.
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TheVorticonSenior Contributor
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I can't do one-on-one or large groups @Former-Member. Small group with 1 conversation is the only thing that works for me. The mindspot messages seem very copy/paste, except now I've made them go off script and they must be stuck after satisfying their stupid duty of care stuff. I need to feel changes now because I'm going to struggle with an upcoming thing if things are still as they are now. Have you looked into any free resources or books as a stopgap until you can afford the ACT course or it's a better time to do it?
No probs @Faith-and-Hope. Tone can be tricky to read when it's just text, sorry for misinterpreting.
No probs @Faith-and-Hope. Tone can be tricky to read when it's just text, sorry for misinterpreting.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Not at all @TheVorticon .... I agree .... tone can be hard to work out sometimes.
