Leglessfrog078Senior Contributor
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Evening, so lonely right now. Life hasn't gone to plan. One wants to be around me but they do tell me why. I just get cut off. How can I improve myself if I don't know
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Hello and welcome to the forums @Leglessfrog078.
we all need support and you are not alone my friend , sending you tendet hugs 
Hello @marchhare
@Mazarita and @Zoe7, I had a very restless night last night , I though a couple of times to come here
Hello @CheerBear, @Former-Member
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Leglessfrog078Senior Contributor
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Morning, yeah I was up late. My mind does stop anymore. Sitting in the lounge room with Xmas lights on just made everything feel worse. I end up going to bed cause I was going to something stupid (take all the deocreations down) and that would have hurt my kids.
I've been separated for 3yrs now.
I've been separated for 3yrs now.
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Leglessfrog078Senior Contributor
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Sorry I went to bed my head was going crazy. I was doing the elf on the shelf as my kids are fight and I thought it might help. However that got packed up and I need took all the decoration down. That would have shattered my kids so I'm glad I had half a brain to go to sleep.
My kid were very upsetting this morning as Jackson (the elf) has gone 😔
My kid were very upsetting this morning as Jackson (the elf) has gone 😔
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Leglessfrog078Senior Contributor
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Sorry but thank for your reply. I really didnt think anyone would talk to me. Thank you
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Leglessfrog078Senior Contributor
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Thank you
I've got an appointment on Wednesday to see my doctor. I will talk through everything. I just don't want to be labelled mental Ill and for the to put on pills. I'm not ill and exhausted. I'm not not one to pop pills not even painkillers unless the pain is off the scales. That's just me.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Hi @Leglessfrog078, we are hear for each other my friend 
and also we have a chat line here too
and we Have @Former-Member here to help us too if we need to have a chat
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Hi again @Leglessfrog078 ☺ It's great to see you back.
I don't think there's a single parent on the planet that hasn't felt bad seeing their kids upset over something, or hasn't had a moment feeling so bad themselves that they just don't know what to do anymore, which sounds a bit like how you might have felt last night?
Do you get any time without the kids? Three years would have meant they were pretty little when you separated - seriously tough 🙁
Do you have any interests or activities that you enjoy that don't involve the kids?
I'm doing a really quick forum pop past visit while I'm having a coffee break, but will back later on and there are others around if you'd like to say hi. If you put an @ symbol in front of someone's name, they will be notified of your reply. Please jump in anywhere you'd like - you'll meet lots of friendly people around.
Hope the afternoon goes ok.
I don't think there's a single parent on the planet that hasn't felt bad seeing their kids upset over something, or hasn't had a moment feeling so bad themselves that they just don't know what to do anymore, which sounds a bit like how you might have felt last night?
Do you get any time without the kids? Three years would have meant they were pretty little when you separated - seriously tough 🙁
Do you have any interests or activities that you enjoy that don't involve the kids?
I'm doing a really quick forum pop past visit while I'm having a coffee break, but will back later on and there are others around if you'd like to say hi. If you put an @ symbol in front of someone's name, they will be notified of your reply. Please jump in anywhere you'd like - you'll meet lots of friendly people around.
Hope the afternoon goes ok.
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Leglessfrog078Senior Contributor
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Been separated for 3yrs now.
I feel so sad for my kids. Their the ones who are been let down or punished for been my kids. How is that fair? How as adults is it right to do this to kids?
Would this still happen if I left?
I feel they would be better off without me been here. They would be able be apart of the family who has rejected me. See their nana, pop and cousins. Get invited to birthdays and holidays.
As it stands we have no where to go for Xmas, I won't have enough money to put on a Xmas lunch. If we don't go somewhere I know I'll end up staying in bed all day. What do I do?
I tried to get invite to the big lunch mission aus has on in town but as we're not homeless we're not welcome. Tried to find a restaurant or pub but the prices are out of reach.
I feel so sad for my kids. Their the ones who are been let down or punished for been my kids. How is that fair? How as adults is it right to do this to kids?
Would this still happen if I left?
I feel they would be better off without me been here. They would be able be apart of the family who has rejected me. See their nana, pop and cousins. Get invited to birthdays and holidays.
As it stands we have no where to go for Xmas, I won't have enough money to put on a Xmas lunch. If we don't go somewhere I know I'll end up staying in bed all day. What do I do?
I tried to get invite to the big lunch mission aus has on in town but as we're not homeless we're not welcome. Tried to find a restaurant or pub but the prices are out of reach.
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Unknown userMember
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Hi @Leglessfrog078
I've been seperated from my ex due to dv for i think coming up for 5 years now which scares me so much. my kids are in primary school and were 2 and 4 when i left. They also lost so much and im pretty much on my own too. same as you christmas is just the three of us and its so much pressure trying to be everything all the time. christmas is a hard time of year for me anyway. I try so hard to be ok for my kids as well... as was said above its tough being a single parent and finding it tough or getting a label doesnt mean you're bad etc. i have ptsd and major depression the labels helped me to get support and help (which for me included medication). I hope that your dr appt is helpful for you this week.
take care
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Leglessfrog078Senior Contributor
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Oh just to add to everything, the 31/12 & 5/1 are my girls birthdays. I was going to have a surprise party with school friend this weekend. Cause it to hard to get people to come on their actually days. But I've stuff that one up.
I brought them some play equipment 3mths ago. It cost 1000, I couldn't put it together myself so paid someone. He didnt do say it had to have a foundation and it sinking it to the sand. So I paid someone else to correct it. Hat person cemented to outer side and the middle keeps sinking and bending the rest out. 1200 or so later. They still can't play on it.
My house is disorganized and I don't want people to see that. As it's not me. 2mths ago my ex finial gave all our belongs back. I did ask for them when I got a house 1.5yrs ago but he refused. So I found what we needs. Now I've got two houses loads of belonging in one. I've never been so disorganized in my life. It's embarrassing.
I brought them some play equipment 3mths ago. It cost 1000, I couldn't put it together myself so paid someone. He didnt do say it had to have a foundation and it sinking it to the sand. So I paid someone else to correct it. Hat person cemented to outer side and the middle keeps sinking and bending the rest out. 1200 or so later. They still can't play on it.
My house is disorganized and I don't want people to see that. As it's not me. 2mths ago my ex finial gave all our belongs back. I did ask for them when I got a house 1.5yrs ago but he refused. So I found what we needs. Now I've got two houses loads of belonging in one. I've never been so disorganized in my life. It's embarrassing.
