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Falling apart

dands26Senior Contributor29 Nov 2017, 4:24 pm AEDT

Falling apart

I have just discovered this forum and am hoping that i can find some people who have simillar experiences as myself.

4 weeks ago my then partner decided to end our relationship, he suffers PTSD which has turned into somewhat chronic depression.

He asked that i remain his friend as he feels as though if i didnt he would have no body.

I am upholding his request and trying to support him the best that i can. He has not done anything to hurt me in anyway and he believes that ending the relationship is better for me then me continuing to live alongside him and his depression. He feels he is not worthy of somebody doing that.

He has expressed alot more since we have seperated about his feelings towards different things that have happened throughout his life and i guess as such contributed to how he feels today.

Taking out the relationship and looking at this as even just a friend, sometimes it is very difficult. I dont know what to say or do to some of the feelings he tells me.

I am new to this forum its my first post. I am unsure how much information to give, but i am hoping there is somebody out there who has some words of support or wisdom for me.

Thanks in advance

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Unknown userMember20 Dec 2017, 3:09 pm AEDT

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hugs @Faith-and-Hope your leaky day is fair enough, and perhaps will help to wash away a little of the build up so that you can refocus on tonight. you have reason enough to have a leaky day. sitting with you, and hoping for special moments with your family for you tonight.

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Fee1Senior Contributor20 Dec 2017, 3:09 pm AEDT

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Hope you feel better tomorrow @Faith-and-Hope. xox

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor20 Dec 2017, 3:11 pm AEDT

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Thanks @Fee1 ..... 🌷

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor20 Dec 2017, 3:13 pm AEDT

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Thanks @Former-Member .... 🌷

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dands26Senior Contributor20 Dec 2017, 3:37 pm AEDT

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@Faith-and-Hope christmas can be such a difficult time of year. My mr. Feels like he has no one this year so it makes it hard. I feel for him. Thoughts are with you today. I do hope that tomorrow is much better for you.

@PeppiPatty mr had first day today of medication and first night last night of sleeping tablets. He had asked me to stay over. So trying to self care this morning was a little difficult but i managed some me time outside for a few hours with a coffee and a book. Mr has gone for some me time now. He really wanted a massage so he has gone for one. Im enjoy the quiet whilst i await his return.

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AdgeSenior Contributor20 Dec 2017, 4:09 pm AEDT

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Yes sitting in a cafe with nice people would be better than my dark house.

I've had a blackout since 10.30am - won't get power back till 3pm (4.5 hours).

Why so long & so often?

Adge

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Unknown userMember20 Dec 2017, 4:15 pm AEDT

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Thinking of you @Faith-and-Hope and love the sound of an afternoon in the cafe with you all and magazines 🙂 Your inner stregth shines even on days when you are feeling leaky. Take care of you

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor20 Dec 2017, 4:30 pm AEDT

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Thanks @Former-Member 🌷

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Sans911Senior Contributor20 Dec 2017, 4:31 pm AEDT

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@dands26 - I have just saw your thread today, and wanted to say hello. You seem to have an incredible strength, resilience and love of/for your partner. From what I have read, I like you a lot. Just wanted to let you know that. It takes special people to stand by someone they love with a mental illness and be supportive.

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NatalieSSenior Contributor20 Dec 2017, 4:45 pm AEDT

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Thanks @PeppiPatty

Thanks for tagging me in.

Now that my mouth's not numb from my visit to the dentist, I'd like one of those cold coffee drinks with ice (I've heard someone call them dirty coffees).

And just a gossipy magazine would be fantastic! Not to mention a comfy seat.

Take care.

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