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@Zoe7 wrote:

I personally am still very much affected by both how it was left to get so out of control and the amount of time it has taken to even begin to sort it out. I believe a couple of us were actually fearful of a very bad outcome - yet we could do nothing more than what we did. I admit I do not know what was actually 'going on' behind the scenes but it did (and does) seem that the moderation at the time was not enough to keep the community a safe place - because quite frankly, it felt very unsafe.

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I am not really feeling safe enough to contribute to this discussion, but ... this. So much this. 🙁

Hello everyone 🙂

What I am really hearing is that my presence (and others) in the forums is missed, who were more consistantly around, I know we can work through this, and I appreciate reading your comments and experiences, that would nto be easy telling us mods those things, so thank you 🙂 i love being in forumland and the relationships I have here

Very much so @Former-Member - and we love having you here (and others) as well

Really sorry that you feel that way. @Former-Member

Thanks @Former-Member

I have actually FELT "NO" a mod actually posted that ... usually just being too generic and OBVIOUSLY missing a word or phrase in the post that seemed to me to insult the poster. It happened less than a handful of times.

I dont think many forum dwellers actually realise how much I have felt directly challenged, passed over and ignored, and maybe even lightly teased, hhhmmm, but I let it go, as in the broader scheme of things I did GET OVER much stuff and still had to survive and produce &*(%$#@ for my offspring. Not always a pretty sight tho. Unfortunately some singles never actually get the opportunity to understand parenting from a parental POV ... remaining Just a child regardless of their age. Apologies if that statement offends any body who is still a single regardless of age, gender or circumstances, but that is a luxury that is totally lost on me. I also could get on a HUGE HIGH HORSE and do a long post about the horrors and insults of stuffed toys for somedody in my shooes, but I do choose to be a grown up. I also hope that over 30s choose to be grown up too. It will be a personal BOUNDARY for me to make that expectation clear to all I engage with here online or irl.

I have edited for spelling errors and that the computer keyboard was to SLOW and conflated Huge and High into an AI neologism .. sorry but I did have a job as Word Processor attached to a Melbourne COurt. I also do not want to really boast about any skill job or activity I have done ... but HAS the freakin world any idea how many times I have been snubbed, cut down or bulldozed. Nah Mate!

I am concerned about insincere platitudinal issues and

enabling of delusion issues if the forum got too

gooooey ..... bordering on fake ....

WOW you wanna see someone triggered!

I'd be outa here in a shot.

Am seriously allergic to fake nice

and forum rep with me would descend below worthlessness.

I would stop being a fan

But thats just me.

Keep it real man

and women ....

Sorry if my story causes muddles

It has been life time of LABOUR to be as clear as I am.

I am not really a bogan but can do a reasonable imitation if necessary.

Also

on the topic of transparency.

A month ago a law abiding concerned representative of ASIO meddled with my computer (the one I am currently typing on) on some hellbent mission so has all my typical internet protocols and users and details on this site etc can be monitored.

I will choose to keep their employee number silent as to raise this issues profile any higher would compromise ANONYMITY and be IRRESPONSIBLE.

Hi GUYZ (APPLE WAVES to ASIO)

Be kind to my boy please. He has had road to hoe.

Does this mum on a mission sound impressed?

DOes this daughter of 2 paranoid Schizophrenics sound i impressed?

Nah not paranoid.

Just an ex public servant with a respect for many traditions and laws in my country and A cranky old lady who has been a company director and sole trader etc etc. WHO WORKS BLOODY HARD FOR MY DISABILITY PENSION.

Shit. I have not even thought about ASIO for 30 years since my son's paranoid Sz dad used to EAR BASH me into unconsciousness about the bloomin CIA and ASIO. Now the bloomin deadshit calls me IRRESPONSIBLE!

FFS WTF.

YEAH APPPLE can swear and this week has learned to poke out tongue via a smiley.

Yet to do it in real life ... not really my style. Though have done a HUKKA.

2nd Apple tanti of the month OVER and OUT

I am so paranoid about digital devices I keep freaking out about my OFFICIAL walkie Talkie at the zoo and prefer to WALK with IRL LEGS to get FIRST AID for RANDOM child who needs it.

Now I know a lot of people will not know what this full edit is about ... but others Will. There is also a big lesson for many workers in my country to learn about the deeper concepts of paranoia and bad journalism and hyping up the wrong issue and casting nasturtians at the wrong people.

A little mystery is apparently a good thing.

Sorry

about that

little hiccup ... now its over.

I AM SICK OF MY FAMILY or ME

BEING TARGETED FOR ANY UNJUST REASON.

I will extend the time re my new

over 30 become a grown up rule

ONLY

for my biological daughter who turned 30 recently and was manipulated by my ex husband to save on CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS. She has moved on from a world class uni to a parliament .. not saying any names.

SO please MR INFORMANT DO NOT INSULT ME on a CARRIAGE SERVICE .. in a phone call ... ABOUT SHOPPING. APPLE HATES SHOPPING. See YOU in COURT..

MY DAUGHTER works like a trojan like me .. and has been robbed of her birth right ... a mum .. and her baby brother.

I was used to OBEYING RULES NOT MAKING THEM.

I need to calm down but thank you SANE for helping keep me alive for this day.

Hi Guys 🙂

I'm a big fan of bringing things into the light rather than keeping them to bubble in the dark. It sounds like this is a conversation that needed to happen for the community, thank you for all your comments and feeback around this topic @Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7 @Former-Member @Appleblossom @Former-Member @CheerBear @Phoenix_Rising and @Mazarita. I'm hearing how this is impacting you it is helpful for us to hear it. Some great points for us to ponder 🙂

It's great to have a space where this can be openly explored

thank you @Faith-and-Hope for bringing this convo up, ive noticed the mods have been quiet too but i do love seeing them around and interacting with everyone too

I have noticed that the mods seem to be commenting less on posts lately.too @Faith-and-Hope, thanks for bringing up the thread

I agree @CheerBear I Love seeing @Pebbles, @Acacia and @Lunar and @Former-Member and @Former-Member, liking and chatting

I usually have a look around the forum to see which Mods are on and saying hello like @Former-Member, and @Former-Member and others

I'm following this discussion and agree with most of the comments made so far. I've been on the forums since late 2014 I think and have also noticed 1. less input from moderators and 2. longer delays in response from mods when tagged into a thread because someone is out of their depth with an issue - especially when it looks like someone may be at risk of harming themselves. @Former-Member. I don't even know who the current moderators are but have recently followed threads where there should have been faster intervention or response from mods and would have been in the past.

@Former-Member @Former-Member @Former-Member, I was wondering if you might know when @Former-Member may appear to continue the conversation here? I am still super struggling more than you could ever know and it would help a little bit to have a sense of when we are going to be able to start unmuddling the muddle. I know suzanne said she was away yesterday, but I'm super hoping we can start addressing the muddle some time super soon.

Also, do you happen to know where @Former-Member is? She doesn't seem to have been in Forum Land for quite some time. Do you think she's gone off on her flying island to hunt down NikNik and drag her back to Forum Land? With NikNik away and Lauz missing-in-action, who is currently the acting Commander in Chief in Forum Land???