I need feedback with my husband.......

Dont you agree @Faith-and-Hope that @Appleblossom gives these little rays of intelligence .....that stops you in your tracks.....

But I feel you @Faith-and-Hope.... your amazingly getting through. So am I .....in the same state in Australia....is'nt that amazing......

hello my special friend @PeppiPatty ,

Hello @Faith-and-Hope, @Appleblossom, @patientpatient, @Former-Member

A mix of humour and politeness is hard at all time , but at times when mr shaz stands up I will say "It is your Turn " or Can you put the jug on for a cuppa , etc

Oh Yes @PeppiPatty

He has acknowledged his wrong doing and mental state many times in the last month, both on the phone and in person.

I am distressed as his father seems to be quite relaxed about letting all the blame fall on his own son. He is one of the "laid back American bong a day for 15 years" types .... At least I got him to stop taking drugs and smoking all substances in our children's home 30 years ago, even before our son was born.

SO I focus on the positive, am used to him treating me like a fool, but not liking him doing it to OUR SON at this critical stage. I try and MINIMISE his ( father's) irresponsibility to KEEP THE PEACE but am still shocked by it.

I feel prouder of my son's approach for reasons .. not just blind mother's love.

SOrry for all your situations too. We are ALL doing it tough.

dear @Former-Member

it's Not that ....'if your making........' it's about Mr Darcy not being passive and showing Respect and graciousness to you.

A please and thankyou would not go astray. A kind gesture would not go astray.

We went to therapy today at Relationships Australia. The therapist was saying....."I don't know what I do for you two. You are both very unique in how you see the world......" I was very suprised. Can't he see how he makes us feel safe when we are both vulnerable in his therapy room?

He worked very hard on working with Mr G with him saying that Mr G will actually see a carer one day per week for a month or two to give me a break.

I cannot believe it.

wow. Now lets see if it really happens......

Actually @PeppiPatty

I woke up pretty annoyed with BB today.

SO how is that for cyber indirect relationship.

I have not heard how BB has APOLOGISED FOR HIS MANY MANY more BAD decisions thorughout his life, which included pretty over privleged support in family, corrections and medical profession.

I would like to hear about his sense of remorse for wasting so many resources including his own life.

I do not want my son and and BB's situations equated too much. Peppi

I am feeling my reservoirs of patience strained by BB all the way over in the east.

Pls dont enable more of his bad behaviour. I get people off the hook too often.

You do tend to overblow the gorgeous hubby routine and make a lot of excuses. Not sure why?

He aint the only one to quit smoking and dope. I still have not had much credit for it.

In real life or on here.

He should grow up and man up and pull his little finger out.

You know I am not blow away by the poor ole paranoid Sz routine as I have known far too many, with much harder lives than BB.

Shooting straight from the heart and the hip.

He relapses and I am wiping him. That is also called a boundary. I know when I am through supporting someone. For very good reasons. I will still be your friend if you wish ... but a line needs to be drawn in the sand.

My son and I SUFFER for feeling a drain on the system and we are very productive human beings.

End Apple tanti.

@Faith-and-Hope @Sanatorium23

Huge sigh and trudges on........

Yeah, I'm with you @Faith-and-Hope. I feel very lonely and frustrated. I got out some thread and crochet hook and wil start crochetting a place mat.........

Mr g just told me that he is sweating a lot and he's just fallen asleep..........

my youngest son just fell into depression so called him and left a message. My oldest son is forever on my mind. I have been still writing my slow mail cards. I sent one today and will get 2 more to send for tomorrow.

So, now my husband is still difficult, snoring all day, in a really bad mood in the morning and falls asleep and still orders me around all when he is awake.

It's been about 2 months since he quit smoking, He said his bad mood is because he quit smoking.......grrrrr...........

It's a never ending drama of excuses ......

Hello @PeppiPatty, @Sanatorium23