I need feedback with my husband.......

Maybe bat it back to him a bit and say that is an order not a request, can you listen to your tone etc ...or count them.

If you feel you want to be giving to him ... maybe try it jokingly if it is at that level.

If he is feeling desperate he may not realise how much he does it, but it is not fair on you.

He seems to get more than his fair share of positive attention, with health care teams etc etc...

In parenting I heard about the concept of A-Z grades of attention ... he does need it to be top quality all the time... do your own thing and a bit of ignoring. It is a pity it is this way, but I get you are in it for the long haul..

I do not have any advice to offer you here @PeppiPatty but I can offer you my support and an ear (eyes) to listen. I know others you have tagged will be in a much better position to offer suggestions/advice.

So for now - you have my ears and as many hugs as you like

Hi @Former-Member. We deal with delusions that relate to health but our situation and background story sounds different. I don't have to deal with demands all the time, though I find it easier to go along with most requests than to go against. Sorry @PeppiPatty, this isn't any help to you. I'm not that familiar with your story, assume hubby is on meds and taking them diligently.... and hopefully seeing a psychologist. One thing I have to deal with is weird ideas (usually related to health, eg connecting coffee, red wine or over-the-counter meds with being able to do certain things.) Sometimes I get really tired of it and just don't respond.

Dear @patientpatient

I havent met you how are you ? I'm happy to meet you.....yes, my husband has chronic

Acute meaning Schizophrenia every now and again and again and

Chronic all the time.

But you would know that. I'm writing for it for others.

He has gotten up and he is making me a coffee for me this morning....

It feels like I lost him for about 2 to 3 months....and he does talk constantly.....like right now.....constantly.

He is wonderful on his meds and depo and all.....

Any thoughts @patientpatient ? You seem clever.

DEar @AppleblossomApple, my friend,

I took your advise and did a bit of joking today. On his budget list, there is money for cigars ....

I said, well, you cannot die before my Birthday so that will have to be cut out.....and he agreed. He is talking constantly.....

grr

I've been trying the ignoring thing thank you very much Apple.......great advice.....

@Zoe7 @Former-Member @patientpatient

A mix of humour and politeness is hard to do ALL the time.

A wife a of a blind man taught me the importance and okayness of a little darkness in the humour between spouses. BB's situation is pretty tough .. so calling it out like that was probably really good for both of you. @PeppiPatty

I have started admitting to my delusions so that others in my life do not get so defensive. If I think really hard I am sure I can manufacture a few delusions about my hopes for an ideal marriage in an ideal world. By taking charge of the humour but also admitting how lousy I am at it .. helps with relaxing the rapport.

In our family the Dx are rampant so that is what I have to tackle head on. Including pleading for a few of my own Dx so that the others cant say I dont know what it feels like.

I had a lovely hour with my son today... I am proud of who he is and how he is dealing with his S==t. I had to tell him to stop saying sorry. That I accepted it and thanked him for it, but he had said it enough and been punished enough. Peppi we have had a lot going down here.

Oh yes, @Appleblossom Apple, I've spent many weeks visiting my hubby in prison.......

Can you tell your son that he has many people around him that

love him and he is making all these people look foolish if he doesnt have this time to acknowledge his part in bad behaviour,,,,,no matter how unfiar it is........

Interesting what you do @Faith-and-Hope it's like that you are asking for two things at once.....respect and owning husband's disability.......

I will do........