Flashbacks

Hi there @Former-Member. We havent come across each other before I dont think. But I just came across your post and immediately felt compassion for you.

I'm so sorry to read that you experience flashbacks. They are truly dreadful to go through. I know because I too have them. Some worse than others. My latest one was a real doozy and totally knocked the stuffing out of me. It was over two months ago now, and I am still suffering from the aftermath of it. So I understand how you feel about them, and your dread of the prospect of more to come.

I havent read any other threads of yours, so am not across your story. Do you see a psych currently? If you arent already, I would urge you to seek a psychologist's assistance to help you to develop some coping methods to help you through any future flashbacks. It wont stop them, but it will help you to better manage them and to deal with them when they do inevitably occur.

Something else I'd recommend is to use 'grounding' techniques. This is very helpful in bringing you back to the here and now, and to reassure yourself that you are now safe and not in actual danger.

I'm sorry I cant be of much help to you, but I'm sure others will come on board with further advice and support. Meanwhile please know you are not alone in these feelings you are having. Many here understand and know what you are likely going through. My best wishes for you.

I will tag a few others who will know who else to tag to offer you further help: @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 @Zoe7 @Former-Member

Sherry

@Former-Member. I'm sorry.

I'm sorry @Former-Member. I hope it wasnt something I said? I wish only the very best for you.

Sherry

Hi @Former-Member I completely respect your decision to leave but know we are here for you if you decide to come back.

As for the flashbacks - yep I hear you.

Yesterday I was actually doing better than I have been in a very long time - then I was hit very unexpectedly by a flashback last night. The effects of this one seemed to be worse than they have been for a while - I believe it is because I had 'let my guard down' a bit and so when it hit I didn't have the same defences up that I usually do.

I do find it hard to explain the physical reactions I have when this happens - and often the physical reactions are worse because there is nothing that can help with them but time - and that further feeds into how I cope mentally.

Not being able to 'control' the flashbacks also means I am constantly trying to avoid triggers - and by the very process of trying to do that it can actually be a trigger in itself. So life is a balancing act - and definitely not one I have a grasp on at the moment.

It does feel like this LIFE we are living through will never change but knowing that there are people here that understand does make dealing with it just that little bit easier.

...and you are definitely not 'playing a self-pity party' @Former-Member - your feelings are real, they are valid and they do matter - YOU do matter

Hi @Former-Member

We're sorry to see you go. If you do decide to go ahead with closing your account, the details around how to do so can be found in the link below:

https://saneforums.org/t5/custom/page/page-id/sane-forums-terms-conditions

I hope that helps.

Take care,
Bookworm

We're sorry to see you go @Former-Member , love you to keep your account open and visit us from time to time but that is up to you my friend , we will greet you with open arms when you come back

take care

Not self-pity at all @Former-Member ...... sopelf-empathy ..... as it should be ..... ❣️

We we are here for you Hon, and there are many others here struggling with flashbacks who know exactly what you’re saying ...... and have advice and understanding to offer you.

Please excuse me for saying so, but it’s not your partner going through this hell ..... if they have an issue with it I respectfully suggest they seek counselling to help their identify with the grief and trauma in their partner ..... you ..... 💜💐💕..... you matter and they need to learn that you matter, and your feelings and experiences matter .....

Please stay with the forums.

Please let us help you learn to fly again .....