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MDTSenior Contributor
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gymgirl240Senior Contributor
hey guys not doing so well today as i have had another bad day and it got that bad that it affected my driving and nearly had and accident this afternoon and i know do not want to get behing the wheel of a car as i saw my life flash before my eyes and have been in an car accident before as well as have lost some close friends in car accidents
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FearandloathingNew Contributor
Hello everybody,
I'm totally new here. Don't really know what to say haha I'm 22 and I live in QLD. I was diagnosed with bpd when I was 18. I was wondering in their 20 has ever had many problems with identity? I had always thought that our identity is sort of "fixed". But ive realised that it's not fixed at all and I'm constantly adjusting my beliefs and behaviours.
Any thoughts?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
I had a busy day planned @MDT but it hasnt gone that way. Instead its been about keeping safe. Honestly dont know what else im suppose to do.
Sorry your feeling abit odd, I seen you had quite a bit of support on your thread through the day which is good.
Good to hear from you @Former-Member I hope your holiday went ok and didnt have to come home early.
Rest up, and when your ready love to hear about your adventures.
Sorry to hear your not doing to well either @gymgirl240when you upset or not in a good state to drive try to do some deep breaths and then try and drive. Sometimes its a day for being at home. I hope tomorrows a better day for you. What is it that has you having a bad day?
Hello and welcome @Fearandloathing
I just need to let you know that you cant say specifics on here like your name etc, saying your age and state is fine but please be weary of details of yourself as this is an anonymous forum.
I have bpd too so can probably relate some some things however what youve meantioned here about identity is normal for everyone. Everyone at some point questions who they are, what are their values, what they are doing here, what they want to do etc. its perfectly normal. Its really about finding yourself and who you are which can take a lifetime so no rush at all. Times change constantly which means so will our views.
hello also @melbournegirl@The-red-centaur
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FearandloathingNew Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
thats ok @Fearandloathing
im not sure how to link things in here so will ask
@Former-Membercan you link the community guidelines in here please
when talking to specific people you can tag them so they will get a notification saying that someone is talking to them. to do this if your on phone type in the @ symbol then their name like i have yours or if your on computer when you type in the symbol itll bring up names that you can pick from.
theres also a thread here called BPD byt myself ill see if @Former-Member can link it in here too, you can ask other members with bpd tips too. im really not good at friendships either so not much help there.
what sort of things are you interested in/hobbies? do you work? favoruite tv shows or just anything in general to help us get to know you
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MDTSenior Contributor
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Thanks for all the helpful information @outlander 
hey @Fearandloathing, a warm welcome to the sane forums. You can find the community guidelines that @outlander was referring to here
There are several helpful threads on the forum where members discuss what is is like to have BPD. You can check a few of these out here and here
I hope you find the forums helpful and supportive. Please feel free to get in contact if you need any further support or have any questions
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gymgirl240Senior Contributor
@outlandermy bad days come on at any second and what i have explained to u about in other forms of what im going through thoses days knowing that he is still out there. just i find it hard to do anything and been thinking that im mentaly ill and that everything is my fault. @MDT yeah it just hard each and every day for me at the moment but slowly working towards it
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