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Squeeze my ball - for stress relief

Squeeze my ball - for stress relief

The little things that bug you can add up over time.

After an exhausting day at work the other day, and a long journey home stuck in traffic, I came home to find that my partner had left a pile of dirty dishes in the sink. I felt disproportionately angry and annyoyed. REALLY angry and annonyed. Usually I can shake off little things like this, but this day I couldn't. I felt I was being irrationable and unreasonable, so I called a girlfriend. I just felt like I needed to vent about this seemingly small thing. It was so nice to hear someone say, 'it's normal to have days like these, you just got to get it off your chest'.

So this is a place to release stress about things no matter how small or big you think they are. We often hear people say that they feel like they shouldn't complain when other people are going through much tougher circumstances. But remember, it's the little things that can build up over time, which can break be the straw that break the camel's back.

So please use this space to get stuff of your chest, and release some stress. It's kind of like our own stress reduction kit.


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Re: Squeeze my ball - for stress relief

Thank you
When he left for 4.5 mths he got himself a unit we keep the unit for a year as it gave him and I somewhere to go for some time out
He had no money cashed in all his rdos at work went on a massive spending spree
Thought he was on top of the world
Sonhe is living in the unit now but I'm worried about him being alone
He drinks a lot to take away the pain
He has a doc app on the 9th to change meds and get some help
I do love him to bits

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@Uggy78

The support and changes are likely to be in increments ..... just keep trying in every direction you can, but be mindful too of carer burnout .... you have a responsibility towards your own well-being too, especially with children to support ..... my five are all late teens and twenty-somethings, a couple of them married now, so I receive moral and other support back from them, but we have to all pull together to make things work .... it's hard going on everyone, but just keep doing your best .... sounds like you've been doing a fabulous job of it so far, even tho it probably doesn't feel like it .....

See what comes out of the doctor's appointment, and keep seeking opportunities .... maybe the unit will come free, or you can request to end the lease or something ....

Hugs .....

❤️💕

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I would love for him to come home but our kids aren't ready for that 😢

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@Uggy78

I can sooo relate ..... thought the kids and I would be leaving for a while there ..... then my WH (wayward husband) started taking off interstate for work commitments, and it took a lot of pressure off ..... it made it easier to manage when he was at home.

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My dad has been around today to try get the kids to see the bipolar side of things my hardest one to crack is my 19 yr old son he has been through and seen so much 💔 Doesn't want his mum hurt anymore

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Re: Squeeze my ball - for stress relief

Education is a real key @Uggy78 .... I had a break-through moment when the Stages of Change was pointed out to me. It helped me to see where my WH was roughly within that cycle, an approximation of how long that part of the cycle is, a description of the behaviours associated with that stage .... (Bingo !!) .... and roughly what to expect ....

It took away the sensation that we were floating in space and no-one could hear us ..... it was like someone had turned a distant light on, showing us the way was in that direction.

Is family counselling available for you and the kids ? It might be good to come together and air the feelings with someone who can help the kids make sense of them and provide context, even if it's just you and your eldest at the moment - he's your "lead-horse" for the others.

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