Self Pity Party

Hi @Former-Member,

I'm sorry that you're running into problems, I'll get @NikNik to look into it for you and get back to you as soon as possible.

Take care,
Bookworm

Hello @Former-Member

I am sorry to hear the forums have not been supporting of you at the moment and the mods have not been able to asist you with deleting your account which seems to be causing you more distress, I will send you an email so we can work this out with your account.

Lunar

Hi @Former-Member,

I am so very sorry that you are feeling so unsupported in Forum Land. It meant so much to me when you swung past the ocean the other night when everything (and by everything, I mostly mean me!!!) was in such utter chaos.

I'm sorry that you are seeing Forum Land as clicky. I can totally understand why it would look that way and I hate the fact that this is so. It is a puzzle that has been pondered and I recognise that no solution has yet been found.

As you might have noticed, I spend a LOT of time here in Forum Land. Indeed, at the moment I recognise that I am spending more time here than is healthy for me. Once the muddle of last week settles a bit, I intend to go back to working on limiting my time here more.

The problem is, I do see the issue of newcomers and those who visit less frequently not being as well-supported as they might be, but at the same time, due to the size of Forum Land, it is impossible for me to solve this puzzle. Thus, what I tend to do, is that when I'm in the headspace to support others I will scan through the threads and see which threads haven't got a response yet. If I see that someone is engaging in conversation with others, then I will move on. This isn't because I don't want to support that person, it is simply that I have limited time (and brain capacity!!!) and thus need to be more selective than I would like, about where I put my limited resources. I hate that this is so. I so very badly wish it was different. But alas, it is what it is.

Often I will be in a headspace to be playful, while not being in a space to support someone who is super struggling. Thus you may see me "playing" on some threads while perhaps seeming to ignore someone who is struggling. I am not ignoring them. I recognise that if I try to support someone when I am super struggling myself, then it is likely that I will say something unhelpful and risk causing distress/harm.

It's hard @Former-Member and I so very badly wish I had a solution to the puzzle. But I don't. All I can do is say again how sorry I am that you feel unsupported here in Forum Land. I would very much like you to stay, but at the same time, I respect your choice to leave. Thank you again for dropping by the ocean in the early hours of Friday morning.