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EvangelineSenior Contributor
I am so over feeling like shit. As soon as I start feeling a tiny morsel of normality, everything falls to shit again. I can't catch a break. People keep telling me that It will make me more resilient but I don't give a fuck about being resilient. I'm over it.
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Phoenix_RisingSenior Contributor
Hi @Evangeline,
It sounds like you are super over everything that is going on for you at the moment. I can definitely relate to what you are saying about finding it super unhelpful when people tell you that what you are going through will make you more resilient. I find it intensely invalidating, patronising and dismissive when people say that to me. It's right up there with "whatever doesn't k*ll you will make you stronger." Er...no, repeated trauma makes us traumatized, not stronger! 
Do you want to share a bit more about what is going on for you at the moment? Alternatively, I'm about to head over to Friday Feast, which is here: Friday Feast, and you are super welcome to join us all there. It tends to be a fast-paced absurd couple of hours where we manage to talk about pretty much nothing and yet still have fun (you kind-of have to experience it to understand. 
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I am glad that you felt you were able to come and vent here in Forum Land. I hope it helps at least a tiny bit. 
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EvangelineSenior Contributor
@Former-Member @Phoenix_Rising, thanks for replying. I'd prefer not to go into details of why I am upset, but I've just had a very rough day and when stuff like this comes up my head goes to very dark places and I don't have anyone to talk about it with.
I just make so many silly mistakes that really ruin my reputation and I get so embarrassed. It feels like I'm caught between wanting to be genuine, but upsetting people, and wanting to stay out of trouble, but being untrue to myself.
The thing that really sucks is that realistically, life doesn't get any easier. It just gets harder. I'm in my early 20's and I already can't cope. Sure, I am often described as intelligent, talented, and good...all that kind of stuff... but I just don't see any hope in my future.
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Phoenix_RisingSenior Contributor
Hi @Evangeline,
@outlander is in her early twenties too, and so is @MDT. You guys may find you have a bit in common. I love that people who know you in the real world describe you as intelligent, talented and good. That's pretty cool - even if you don't always see yourself in those terms.
I have a remarkable talent for making mistakes and upsetting people too. I am super grateful for Forum Land where I can almost always feel pretty ok about being me. I hope you can feel similarly supported here.
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utopiaSenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Evangeline and welcome to the forum
distractions & focusing on something else is a good start and I know it can be hard at times
what things do you like doing to help you
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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