The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing

@Sans911 worried about you sis. Hoping all is ok hun 💌💚💜💙

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@Sans911 Missing you sooo much Hon. Noticed the page number here is up to page 911 - maybe a good omen ...hope you are okay and can check in soon 💖💖💖

Hey @Sans911 I am very much hearing you Hon. I have been feeling much the same way for some time. For me it is keeping those connections with people we are close to and dipping our toes into the water bit by bit with others as we go along. There is no blueprint for finding that purpose or place here again - it is a day by day prospect where we give/receive as much or as little as we can manage on that given day ...and over time hoping that those feelings of belonging, purpose and place once again become stronger. At present I feel there is an underlying sense of disconnect throughout the forum with so many struggling day by day and unable to find any light for themselves - that can become wearing for all concerned as well as those supporting them - this is no ones fault - it is what it is and those people both need and deserve our support ...but it does become draining and maybe like me, you have reached a point that it is too much. Both you and I have been here for a long time and over that time both received and given a huge amount of our time and support - and just like anything in life - it can wear us down. We both have our very strong connections here and for the meantime maybe it is those connections that we maintain as we try to navigate those present feelings. It does not mean we lose contact altogether but minimise our input and support while we find our feet again ...maintain those strong bonds we have, keep thngs light and do-able and if/when we feel we have something to contribute then add our voice. Part of that is also recognising that changes - good or bad - happen ...and also that we are not responsible for how others are feeling/see the world. We can only do what we can do and sometimes no matter how much we want to help, no matter how much we give nor how much we want things to be different - it is what it is ...and as such finding where we sit in all that means redefining our place and our purpose for being here. I do not think neither you nor I are 'lost' but a lot of things have gone on recently for both of us that have contributed to that uncomfortable feeling and a real sense of 'walking on eggshells' at times - that does leave us in a position of not knowing what is right or wrong to do, say or contribute. You do have a wealth of experience, knowledge and wisdom though Sans911 so do not ever devalue what you have to offer - and do not ever feel that your support of others is not both welcomed and wanted. Give yourself time - nothing stays the same (as we well know) and I hope for us both that we find our place again and with that comes much stronger connections and a sense of place here once again. You are important to me and always have my support ...and I very much value and appreciate your input and support whenever and wherever you can provide that - do not underestimate how special that is and how special you are to me ...like many others here - you are loved, appreciated and cared for and the forum is what it is because of wonderful people like yourself. Hugs and hugs an hugs ...and a whole heap of love to you Hon

@Zoe7- you obviously didn't get much sleep last night. Your post has me in tears. You're pretty much spot on. But I'm not weary or burnt out from offering too much of myself. More what you described as walking on eggshells with so many, trying to say the right things. And the rapid expansion of the forum has left me feeling like I'm just part of a crowd, that there is less need for me to support others because now some members have support in spades. Which can only be a good thing, but I feel I can't contribute as I might overwhelm that member and place too much expectation on that person to respond to me. And then if I don't post anything but just be a 'supporter' then I'm is that enough? For me it feels like it's not. The one thing that is distressing & wearing for me is seeing others in constant distress & emotional pain day after day after day with no improvements, no relief, no peace. One part of me feels distressed, and another wants has me feeling angry & wanting to shake people into action. But of course I can't and won't do that. People need to find their own path, and it's their journey, not mine. I can only be empathic, encouraging and supportive.

Thank you for your wisdom, understanding, support, and love. I was willing you to respond to me, and I really appreciate your insight. Much love and light sweet, sweet Zoe. 💜💜💜