outlanderSenior Contributor
I dont know how much longer i can go on like this
I dont know how much longer i can keep going on like this anymore. I feel completely defeated right about now
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I dont know how much longer i can go on like this
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Former-Member - can I ask what kind of small goals do you set? If you're ok sharing.
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@Sans911I don't mind at all hun. We have only set 4 small ones.
1. To tell Hubby if I had a bad night or good night (not details at all just good or bad)
2. To try 3 things from my list before I SH (so if I SH it is still ok in a way as long as I have tried 3 things before hand)
3. To try and do over 5000 steps a day (some days I was lucky to do 2000)
4. To do 1 thing each day for myself (so sit down and read something, have a cuppa outside)
So they are all small and managable. If I don't achieve them then it doesn't matter. As I go along I guess the goals will become bigger/more important, but I am no where near that stage yet.
@Sans911Remember baby steps, no gigantic leaps!!
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Former-Member - thanks for sharing that hun. I have only one small goal is to do something nice for myself each day. Whether it be a shower, eat something nice and tasty, do some tidying. Your goals are good
What about you @outlander?
What about you @outlander?
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@Sans911I think where people go wrong is they make their goals too big, too unrealistic.
My ultimate goal is to have no SH/SI and learn to live with my MI (it;s never going to go away I know that)
But if I make that my goal, then it could take me years to achieve and I will get so disheartened along the way. So all my small goals along they way, will one day hopefully see me acheive my ultimate goal.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Former-Member - unfortunately, I have unattainable expectations of myself(and to some degree, others) and when I don't reach such goals, yes, it's a crashing defeat for me.
But beyond trying to find something good in each day, I really can't see a way ahead. I feel I've lost so many important things in the last few years. Things that I've been at fault mostly for the losses and failures. I can't seem to get over those losses, and losses of my childhood. I'm so stuck of how to move forward and see ANY future.
I made an important goal with my suicide prevention counsellor, in that I would do my best to stay alive. It was a goal I made at my first appointment. And I want to eventually find a way past SI/SH too. But I can't live with this crippling depression. I have to find a way forward or out of it.
But beyond trying to find something good in each day, I really can't see a way ahead. I feel I've lost so many important things in the last few years. Things that I've been at fault mostly for the losses and failures. I can't seem to get over those losses, and losses of my childhood. I'm so stuck of how to move forward and see ANY future.
I made an important goal with my suicide prevention counsellor, in that I would do my best to stay alive. It was a goal I made at my first appointment. And I want to eventually find a way past SI/SH too. But I can't live with this crippling depression. I have to find a way forward or out of it.
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@Sans911 I know how you feel to an extent. For quite awhile I was in denial that anything was wrong with me. I felt weak that I couldn’t deal with this myself, I still feel that. I am meant to be strong, I am the one other people rely on, I should be able to cope better, I am not the one that has a MI.
The expectations we put onto ourselves are really so unattainable. Yet we keep doing it to ourselves. Sans you have said to me a few times I didn’t choose this, so I am saying the same to you. You did not choose for these things to happen, for this life. Yep it is totally crappy that we are dealt this, but it is not our fault that this life was bestowed upon us.
I don’t know your whole story hun but know you have had it extremely hard throughout your life, but look at what an amazing person you are now. I know we don’t know each other irl, but I can tell what a remarkable, strong, compassionate person you are hun. Those are qualities you should be proud of. I hope that you find a way forward through all of this because you deserve it so much. ❤️❤️❤️
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Former-Member you shouldn't say stuff like that in your post. I find it most offensive! That just makes my heart break & tears are threatening. I know I've done ok in my life, I know I've achieved much and had experiences that in my childhood I never dared to dream were possible. But for all that life, which I fought so hard to have, what am I now? What are we reduced too? And why can't we fix ourselves? As some people tell us you just have to do x, you and z and you'll be happy.
And I'm tired @Former-Member. Tired of keep my sh*t together, tired of being strong, tired of trying to keep everything under control, tired of fighting, tired of being tired.
@outlander - where are you lil Sis? I've hijacked your thread, haven't I? Have you gone to bed? If you want me & @Former-Member to move our convo just say so. I'm not trying to exclude you from this. You know you can jump in anytime. ❣️❣️❣️❣️
And I'm tired @Former-Member. Tired of keep my sh*t together, tired of being strong, tired of trying to keep everything under control, tired of fighting, tired of being tired.
@outlander - where are you lil Sis? I've hijacked your thread, haven't I? Have you gone to bed? If you want me & @Former-Member to move our convo just say so. I'm not trying to exclude you from this. You know you can jump in anytime. ❣️❣️❣️❣️
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Faith-and-Hope I see you around. Hiding under the likes. @Former-Member too
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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👋 Hi everybody ......
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Bubbles3Senior Contributor
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