Night Shift

My night is done @Appleblossom and @Faith-and-Hope. Wish me luck for tomorrow as I have something that could see me come undone but I don't want to talk about on here. Hoping my ok mood carries over. You'll know by my absence or total need for distraction how it went. Something I have to work on and is ongoing. Anyway I hope you both sleep well, take care💜😊

Good luck tomorrow @Former-Member There is a lot in life that takes a while before we find the words ... and then the right time or people to tell.

and good night to all ... I am a little tired ... my son has started playing actual music now so the piano is going full on ... but if I close my door it is gentle and in the background.

Sleep well all.

@Former-Member 😘 Thanks ...

Re my son - yes - working in the field ...

Re WH - he was a workaholic for the best part of 25 years, so with all the kids, medical dramas, house extension / damage / repair dramas, in-law dramas, school / dialect dramas, etc, I have been managing alone anyway .... he was my financial support, and a sounding board, and he was "around" .... but essentially the business was his shouldered workload, and the house and family were mine .... in hindsight I don't know how I did it .... baby steps all the way was the only way ....

He had an over-eating e.d. that has only recently been recognised as an e.d. (BED), and in the light of where he has wandered to over the last five years since we sold up the business, I now understand that workaholism is classic ocd .... he's probably ocpd in fact .... but this new version of e.d. coupled with a mid-life crisis or whatever is going on in there has really taken the cake .... !! This is somethin' really out there as far as e.d.'s go, but so well masked that it has taken these five years to start showing itself in ways that can be identified beyond our home relationships.

E.d.'s are an mi, and we are definitely witnessing that, but I am also getting pretty clear statements from e.d. support people that many of his behaviours fall outside the range of an e.d.

All we can really do is just keep trying to walk alongside him until there is a break-through of some sort, or pack up and leave, which can't end well for any of us ... based on his non-coping behaviours to date. For the last six months or so, this new pattern of escapism has provided us with some stability and a safety valve .... what might appear terrible has actually been a saving grace.

I walk in faith. That was another hall-mark of my upbringing. Keeps me centred and focused on something outside of myself at the same time, if that's not too confusing ....

Yes @Former-Member, wishing you all the best with whatever it is, and I will be sending you thoughts of strength and courage ...

Goodnight both of you ...

Sleep well @Former-Member @Appleblossom

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Good morning @PeppiPatty

good morning Arlo

had a very restless night sleep last night ,

I think I should of got up and joined my friends here last night

My hubby sleep through everything now because of his meds

Hello @Decadian, how are you today

I could say something about your husband and his medication -- You can tell me @Decadian , I like to know

Last night is starting to catch up

Hi @Shaz51

I think I might actually be saying more about myself when I say this

But I would be furious to have someone sleeping when I was feeling tortured - and my ex slept through my bad nights - I drove him into another room - his snoring was worse than his being asleep

So - he didn't take medication - but he was able to excape into sleep which I never could - still can't

I would be angry

But that's just me -

That might not be your husband - but mine never wanted to be involved with the grief I had for our son - and if I tried to pressure him into anything - he would start projectile vomiting - so I resented things more and more

So - as I said - it says more about me - really

Decadian [hiding]

Hello @Decadian

Like one of our friends said the other night -- It is all about him

For seven years before last august , my hubby has been on and off meds, everything had to be done now ,

he never ever had a good night sleep , so that meant i didn`t either , it was a real rollercoaster ride everyday

for a time he was taking no meds until he ended up in hospital last august

For a year now he has been on two meds a day , tired all the time , sleepy

It is still all about him but differently , snores all night , tired all day

me -- I am not angry but i do get upset when i tell him about my feelings and he just carries on

Oh @Decadian

I forgot to mention that I am totally deaf in one ear and I wear a hearing aid

so I turn the hearing aid off a night time xx