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Night Shift

MazaritaSenior Contributor23 Sept 2015, 4:13 am AEST

Night Shift

Since I am awake at 4am I thought I'd start this thread for those of us who have trouble sleeping and might find it helpful to have a place to go to chat. Whatever gets you through the night is alright.

To get the ball rolling, I'll just say that I enjoyed being part of the Topic Tuesday discussion tonight. I wish it was possible for these events to be weekly rather than monthly. Either way, thanks SANE and all the people I've met on here over recent months.

Edited June 2016 and February 2017: Night Shift is now open 24 hours a day. To join in, just click through to the last page of the thread at the top right of this post to get to the latest message.

Edited April 2017 and June 2017: For the sake of better communications between members here, I am adding that this thread is meant to be a caring, kind and gentle place of sharing. Humour is welcome, as long as its not unkindly directed towards other members. Hope your time in this chat thread is rewarding.

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Unknown userMember09 July 2016, 7:06 pm AEST

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i have nothing to do with my mother... similar reasons @BlueBay ... i think we have a lot in common sadly. My mother was a verbal/psychological abuser. as well as physically at times. she would always blame mental ilness for her worst behaviours but then not do anything about it either which is what makes me so sad these days. that she ishappy to use it as an excuse and take no responsibilty or change... well.. up to 6 years ago when i last saw her. i wish i had a 'family' to fall back on when things are tough. but i muddle through somehow on my own.

i was recently given the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder... (on top of everything else)

im struggling with the label... nothing else has changed i know.. im just trying to figure out what it means for me.. and what i can do. i wish that i could just fix something... do something different, or take something to make it go away.. AGH.

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Unknown userMember09 July 2016, 7:06 pm AEST

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i have nothing to do with my mother... @BlueBay ... i think we have a lot in common sadly. My mother was a verbal/psychological abuser. as well as physically at times. she would always blame mental ilness for her worst behaviours but then not do anything about it either which is what makes me so sad these days. that she ishappy to use it as an excuse and take no responsibilty or change... well.. up to 6 years ago when i last saw her. i wish i had a 'family' to fall back on when things are tough. but i muddle through somehow on my own.

i was recently given the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder... (on top of everything else)

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BlueBaySenior Contributor09 July 2016, 7:07 pm AEST

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@Decadian

I'm going to start one up now.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor09 July 2016, 7:12 pm AEST

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If you can make it about MIL's too @BlueBay, then I can join you ....

When I was a size 10 my MIL was buying me size 16's .... now I am a size 14 I get 18+ ..... can't win against that mind-set so I don't even bother acknowledging it now. I just Sammy-bin whatever is inappropriate and wish someone else well who might like it ... send it on its own journey.

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BlueBaySenior Contributor09 July 2016, 7:15 pm AEST

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@Former-Member

You are so brave. I feel for you so much, sending you a big hug. xxxooo

I agree that having no family to fall back on for support love and nurturing is tough. That's what cuts me up so much.

I too have BPD and I struggle with the name. I too wish I could just get rid of it, take something and get better but I am realising through sessions with my therapist and psych that thre is a lot of work to be done still. So much of my BPD is a struggle to regulate my emotions, black and white thinking, negating everything in my life; suicide ideation, low self worth, plus other things.

Have you heard of DBT? This type of therapy (dialetical behaviour therapy) is used for BPD with good results.

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BlueBaySenior Contributor09 July 2016, 7:28 pm AEST

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@Decadian

It amazes me how many similarities we have and even with @Faith-and-Hope and @Former-Member.

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Unknown userMember09 July 2016, 7:31 pm AEST

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@BlueBay, have you ever found the website "Emerging From Broken" ? The author could be you with the stories she tells. But way ahead on her journey. She's ruthless at saying how it is with these type of mothers. If you get round to checking it out, let me know what you think. We're far from alone 💕

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor09 July 2016, 7:39 pm AEST

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You are all so, so brave !!

More than you know ....

💌 .......... ❤️💜💗💚💙💛

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BlueBaySenior Contributor09 July 2016, 7:42 pm AEST

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@Faith-and-Hope@Former-Member@Former-Member@Decadian

Think i will log off; I am getting tired. Hope you all have a good night sleep. xxxooo

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ethSenior Contributor09 July 2016, 7:58 pm AEST

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Hi back to you @Decadian and @Former-Member.

Lost for words a lot of the time lately. So much happens here between visits by me, too much to respond to everyone. Just know that I am thinking of you all and hoping the best for everyone.

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