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@BlueBay@Former-Member

And anyone else who has been abused - in what ever way - including verbal abuse

Those events scar us - and those scars are deep and last forever - somehow we have to find a way to find a life with them

Which is very hard

It's strange - but I wonder about children in a family where some of the children are abused by the parents - in this case physical, verbal and emotional abuse, are they scarred too

My therapist says yes - somehow a child much younger that the older children who had that kind of abuse changes the outcome of their own lives - to avoid abuse - or to unnaturally conform to whatever behaviours - however maladaptive in the long run and they are scarred too - and may to totally unaware of this

I have an almost photograpic memory - I can remember what happened to me in the past - but about a younger sibling of mine - that person does not remember - because they were born too late or that the other children were much older - and were away from home a lot

But yes - whatever way it happens - abuse causes damage

Another thing I just thought of - when I told my mother that a man at a function where people are highly respected - etc etc - a barn dance event was unpleasant and I told my mother - and she was shocked and told me to keep my voice down and be quiet and stop that - these people would never do anything like that

Silence can be a form of abuse too

Decadian

Me too @Angels333

In this case that "Like" is a form of acknowledgement - saying - "I hear you" - "I understand" - not - "I like what happened"

At the functions when I was a teenager - in the barn dance - a man pushed himself against me - enough info on that - but worse was my mother carrying on like a "pork chop" about the people there never doing something like that

I have smelled something bad all my life when ever I think about that night and my mother more - how dare she!!!

But - stories don't always end there - I was at a church fete where I was a youth leader - and a man did that to me again - and I pushed him away and started to look for one of the male church leaders to tell him when a young woman from the youth group told me what happened to her - same thing

So I could tell her it had just happened to me and that I was sorting it out - and she had done nothing wrong - and I found a male church leader to deal with it

My own experience enable me to help someone else that day

And one other thing always lurks in my mind - why does the offending man think he has that right - and even then - call the women the worst of rude names when he is the offender

Yes - I do think this is a subject to talk about - the things that happen cause us pain for the rest of our lives

Decadian

@Former-Member

I saw it and I read it and I liked it

Thanks for putting it up there - it is On Topic and useful - I am really glad I caught it

The only way to avoid being moderated or red-lighted is not to post

One thing though - moderation does keep the creepies out - but that post was FANTASTIC

Decadian

Hi @Decadian

I was mentally abused by my father

Hi @Decadian

I've been verbally and emotionally abused by my own mother. Even now while she hasn't acknowledged my childhood abuse - that is still silence abuse. And that hurts as well.

i also 'like' posts just to indicate that i have heard the poster and acknowledge its importance... 'like' is a bit of a misnomer on a forum like this i guess.

its always hard to balance what to say/write/read, i get triggered a lot as well, and have to do all of the self care stuff that ive been practicing forever...

lj