Night Shift

im so sorry to read that your parents were like that @PeppiPatty - you deserved so much better. My mother (didnt work) but she would stand and scream at us at all hours for being such terrible children and that she hated us etc etc etc.. every now and then she'd give us garbage bags to throw some clothes in and tell us to get out and we'd have to go stand on the side of the road so we would realise no one else wnated us either. so i can relate...

thank you @Terry

LJ

So.....@lisajane, you got perspective now?

I've had many many years of therapy......sometimes though I think that this online forum is better.

@Terry your just in high anxiety and being triggered that people are listening to you honey.

But it's not all of culture. There are pockets of it though. But your a clever lady.....Now.....I'm calming down from a feral morning........

@Former-Member that's terrible, lisaj.

it's too upsetting. i'm terribly sorry that happened to you. let's cheer up the subject matter.

i can't think of anything cheery. what you've said makes me feel like crying for you

@PeppiPatty@Former-Member

i will tell you something funny - my mum used to take stuff out on me too. once she actually angrily accused me of 'liking chocolate' (nb. i have never been a chocophile) and i was forced to defend myself by strenuously and defensively denying that i liked chocolate - she was really angry. ridiculous! i don't see her much these days.

@PeppiPatty@Former-Member

nb. i think i was about 15 when the above-described 'chocolate incident' happened. for the record, i have never consumed much chocolate, at that time or any other, and she was actually angry that i might like chocolate. i remember sort of beggingly saying 'no, no, i don't like chocolate'.

i don't like my mum much. she's about 4.5 inches shorter than me these days. hee hee!

my foot hurts

@PeppiPatty@Former-Member - begging for mercy, i was, because i'd been accused of 'liking chocolate'. she also used to say 'i'll give you something to cry about' when i was upset about something. in fact, i can think of few times in my life when i have cried when i haven't been threatened with punishment for it.

@PeppiPatty@Former-Member

BTW, I LIKE CHOCOLATE

Dear @PeppiPatty and @Former-Member and @Terry

It is important that these truths came out... pretty traumatic to experience, remember and hear about. Thanks for sharing ladies.

@Former-Member You have done the right thing to try it. If it is the right thing to continue things will settle ... you will know... give it a bit more time .. shame about the infection though .. did she get it at school or was it lingering?

Hi @Former-Member, sorry your little girl's been unwell. Hope she recovers quickly with the medication and can be off again tomorrow. It's natural that you might be questioning your decision as you are starting out with teaching. I agree with @PeppiPatty and buddha about daughter comes first. Ease up on the guilt if you can, you are doing so much, so well.

@PeppiPatty, @Former-Member, @Appleblossom, painful memories like this from childhood, so many of us on the forum seem to need to release them from time to time, me too. A hug all round.

Hi @Terry, hope your foot is better tomorrow. I get foot and lower leg pain, sometimes relieved by a night's sleep. Does a sleep help yours? I got on better socially in a creative 'sub-culture', especially when I was younger.

Hi @Appleblossom, the music group is to learn ukelele and have fun playing it together, but I didn't make it this morning. Really needed the recovery day after yesterday, so next week instead. Support worker is coming along too next time. She's excited about doing it, having little if any experience of making music before. I like that it will be shared enjoyment for us both.