Night Shift

Hi dear @PeppiPatty,

Would it be possible to sit your mother down and set clear boundries? i know my parents did that with my grandparents, they where told if they crossed the line on speaking down to the inlaws, my parents would just walk out and go home. and did so on many occasions

Do you think you could do that with your mum? it is hard, but she needs to understand how it is affecting your health, some people put others down without realising they are doing it. your Hubby is a wonderful support, please listen to him.

My thoughts and well wishes are with you my friend.

Jacques

@PeppiPatty i hate to say it, but she's probably not going to change. change your own behaviour instead - limit contact is my advice.

@PeppiPatty You called?

the girl is here. ....Thats you @chookmojo
how is your husband and

your work

and the chooks ?

my mum is giving me huge grief
but husband is gorgeous .... he is supporting me the best he can. He says a lot of .....dissmissive things....we can work around them though by me just not criticising but being quiet.

im going to visit a friend for support today
about writing mum a letter

On another note;

i was wracking the ol' archives up in my head
and thought that your very cool way of dealing with
excessive triggering may help someone called @Terry on the @nightshift thread.
also ; if you felt like it .....

if you could give me a simple exercise for me.
ps
good to see you. How are you ? from Anne xx

@PeppiPatty Peppi, what is excessive triggering? is it 'hyper-reactivity', so to speak? Please explain. tks. x

Hi @Terry, It is fun trying to take a closeup photo while they are still on the branch , have to be very quite and patient

Hello @PeppiPatty, @Mazarita, @Terry, @chookmojo, @Jacques,

It takes a lot of patience and timing is the important thing -- doing the photos early in the morning as the dragonflies are slower, once they get warmed from the sun , they move quicker

So happy to write to my friends.. @chookmojo @Jacques @Mazarita @Shaz51 @Terry

@lisajane and @Billamba @MoonGal

Did I send you a message this morning @chookmojo ?? I hope so....

Today, I went to see my friend to get some support re; my Mum and her behaviour. I also asked Mum not to go too much into that my Dad stole my home.

We sorted it out ...phew. My friend said that my problems is that I give her too much and she and my Dad both are severe narcassists.... I need to get my own power and hold onto it and stop giveing them stuff to think that I'm going to placate them......

She said I've got to stop being so attached to my Mum but it will take time.

Because they use it to intefere with me and so; she helped me to write Mum

I wrote her:

Hi Mum,

Somebody else wants me to show her some artwork Im doing on Monday so I wont be able to make it on Monday to meet with XX and you.

You and XX have a great time.

Im sorry I tried to control what for you to say to XX.

YOu say whatever you want.

(your both adults)

Much Love Anne

All your messages have been so loving and caring thanks......xx

OMG @Shaz51, he really sits their and wait for them to come to him, or he sneaks up on them, i thought he was using a telephoto lens, my goodness he is very patient, does he use filters and such on his camera? what brand camera is he using?

Love to see some more pics 🙂

hi @Jacques, he does lots of them , sneaks up on them, using macro , filters , he uses Pentax