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Night Shift

MazaritaSenior Contributor

Night Shift

Since I am awake at 4am I thought I'd start this thread for those of us who have trouble sleeping and might find it helpful to have a place to go to chat. Whatever gets you through the night is alright.

To get the ball rolling, I'll just say that I enjoyed being part of the Topic Tuesday discussion tonight. I wish it was possible for these events to be weekly rather than monthly. Either way, thanks SANE and all the people I've met on here over recent months.

Edited June 2016 and February 2017: Night Shift is now open 24 hours a day. To join in, just click through to the last page of the thread at the top right of this post to get to the latest message.

Edited April 2017 and June 2017: For the sake of better communications between members here, I am adding that this thread is meant to be a caring, kind and gentle place of sharing. Humour is welcome, as long as its not unkindly directed towards other members. Hope your time in this chat thread is rewarding.

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Unknown userMember

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@TAB not laughing! Interesting episode Sepranos.
I.e. tony realises his fantasy was a delusion..
Everyone is tired our place, so 👎..

@Faith-and-Hope, gee I hope your MIL doesn't tell you how to be her son's wife?
Geez that would grate me no end, I end up spilling wether he wanted to hear it or not.
That would be completely out of line I think.
Some MIL especially with son's don't know when they have well over stepped boundary.
At end of day your husbands a man, mothers that always try and be the third wheel or extra girlfriend need there head read!
Surely not, your a smart lady.
Something about it though annoys me F.A.H..your a good mum, don't need that crapola.

Maybe im tired tonight, need someone to look after me too!
Sometimes there are no answers.

Actually @TAB another song I like is These days by the foo fighters.
However I feel my thoughts a bit wasted.
Whatev's for me somewhat.

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TABSenior Contributor

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okay don't laugh then @Former-Member not a fan of foo fighters, whatever works tho

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member

The crapola came on with the e.d. about five years ago.

Yeah .... MIL was sweet as when I first met her .... turned into monster-in-law just after married .... "now you'll jump when I say jump !" .... passive-aggressive crapola-and-then-some behind his back .... took 3 years and the point of walk-out to get her mask down and WH and I did a reset .... managed workaholic lifestyle for the next 30 years, but worked as a team and in sync .... then sold the business ....

WH had an e.d. that wasn't medically recognised till recently .... called BED .... was just getting bigger and bigger .... did a dramatic weight drop about 15 years ago, but didn't tip over into the e.d. we've got now .... think it would be recognised as EDNOS - Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified ....

Once he sold the business he went hard into weight loss and something switched .... it's taken him over and turned him into something / someone we don't recognise ..... personality change ....ocd behaviours .... massive control issues .... emotionally unstable .... and engaged with what I thought were his mother's long-ago-rejected relationship ideas .... ideas that didn't work for her either .... her husband did a walk-out for someone else nearly 20 years ago.

There's war damage in her .... he's lost to us for the moment other than walking along with him as best we can .... but this thing won't hold .... he will wake up or collapse ... it's not sustainable .... but he doesn't know that.

Weird, confusing, sad .... becoming more common unfortunately .... little known or understood e.d. backwater ....

So yeah .... wouldn't usually take this sort of crapola .... if that's all it was .... but he's sick ....

Trying to walk him home.

🌷💜

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KurraSenior Contributor

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You're doing a sterling job @Faith-and-Hope but sometimes I don't feel that you're looking after yourself as well as you might. With the wedding fast approaching I know all too well how much work that takes. Add to that the fatigue and stresses as well as the additional load you've currently got with WH........ it's a huge load you're carrying. As much as some of us would like to believe we're super human there is a cracking point for each and every one of us.

Take care of you my dear, please. 🎶💕💜💕🎶

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Unknown userMember

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Really sorry to hear this @Appleblossom. I'm so frustrated for you that things are not working out socially, that sounded down right rude that they didn't move grrr. Was unsure if it is your birthday or something I've missed. Stay strong @Appleblossom. Don't let anyone dash your spirit. Good luck for tomorrow, sending hugs 💜😊

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Thanks @Kurra ... I really appreciate it ... 🌷💕

I have a solid group of family and friends around me, and visit a psychologist on a semi-regular basis so there's someone keeping an eye on my mental health ... but you're right .... it's a super-load and I'm only human ...

And there's only so much you can repeat the same story when there isn't a way forward yet ....

There was a discussion on the forums recently .... and I think it's a thread as well .... asking whether a diagnosis makes a difference or not ....

In our case it makes the difference between the family being listened to and receiving support .... or not ....

In our state we can't access support without that diagnosis, or even ask to be referred to someone for more info .... there's no recognition at all without the diagnosis .... and when the sufferer is an adult in denial .... they have complete right of way under the law unless they suffer a health collapse to the point where decisions can be made over them.

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Unknown userMember

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Hi @TAB, @Former-Member, @Kurra, @Faith-and-Hope

How is everyone?

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Unknown userMember

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@utopia too. I see you're around. How has your day been? I hope you're feeling a bit better 💜😊

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Hey @Former-Member .... 😊

Good to see you .... ❣

I noticed you 'liking' passively today ...

How are you feeling at this end of the day ?

💜🌷

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TABSenior Contributor

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Hi @Former-Member ..just muddling along, that will do for today, laying low ..Haven't heard from you for a bit? hope you are feeling a bit better

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