The place he stays over east has duplicate facilities of what he has set up here @TAB .... and without the added pressure of trying to work around the family here .... and process the emotional side of everything that's going on .... he's in his own bubble ....
He just gets up in the morning and operates The Regimen all day uninterrupted .... with about a 3 hour working day of seeing to the property development work he has set up over there ....
There is a lot of cultural support in that town ... so where I have to prepare his meals according to The Regimen over here, there he goes to the same place every day, same time, three times a day, to eat the same thing in its rotation .... that part is called "Orthorexia".
The workout regimens are a form of "Exercise Anorexia".
He is abusing foods in other ways that I don't want to spell out here cos it might be triggering for anyone with e.d. Issues ... or it can read like a "how-to" for others who might think it's a good idea without realising the dangers ...
Has a washing machine that also dries the clothes .... as he has set up here as well ... and he's quite capable of doing The Washing .... but there's a need to control in this illness .... so when he's here he's really uptight if I'm not doing these things for him, even if he's walking around supervising while I follow instructions / expectations. This keeps him pacified though. His mood swings and rages were intense until I stepped up to "managing" these things for him when he's in our environment. It connects with his mother's ideas early in our marriage, that my place is serving him .... her place is on the same level as him. This illness has caused a switch into him following those expectations when they weren't part of our relationship before .... not like this ...
Its one thing to do things in support of someone you love, and work as a team to manage your family ... this is a dysfunctional hybrid thing that came in with the e.d. We're gonna need help to understand it and deconstruct it .... but he's gotta move out of the denial stage first .... think ... an addiction .... it's like that.
And yeah .... it's weird .... !!
