Night Shift

Yeah @Former-Member .... too chilly for the gold bikini .... that's why I'm not wearing it .... lol ....😜

@TAB

Jabba-the-Hut scene .... chains ... little laughing dog thing on his lap there somewhere .... ? She was his prisoner. Must have been chilly in it tho ... 😆

Money can mess up relationships .... lack of money can too .... depends on the values, pulling together, etc .... recently learned that workaholism is a recognised o.c.d. behaviour .... personally believe some industries attract people who have the tendencies and monetary gains reward it .... very hard on the relationships ....

@Faith-and-Hope cos I have my millionaire brother who always cites himself ... as being a millionaire ... I know the kind of mindsets ... that come with that particular style of person ... they work and play hard .. and go go go ... he was heaps worse than my ex-husband and i wouldnt have been able to stay married to him for half as long ... (we were not raised together) .. I feel for his wife .. and I feel for him ..

but it doesnt change anything ... and it sux ...

Unfortunately ... a lot of successful men ... are still deluded about the level of control they have ... and if they could let go of their need to control .. and love their wife .. we would all be happier ... few of us need the level of money their other activities generate .. nor do we need the level of pain their extreme opinions generate ...

take care BELLA

Hi Jabba

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@Appleblossom wrote:

@Faith-and-Hope cos I have my millionaire brother who always cites himself ... as being a millionaire ... I know the kind of mindsets ... that come with that particular style of person ... they work and play hard .. and go go go ... he was heaps worse than my ex-husband and i wouldnt have been able to stay married to him for half as long ... (we were not raised together) .. I feel for his wife .. and I feel for him ..

but it doesnt change anything ... and it sux ...

Unfortunately ... a lot of successful men ... are still deluded about the level of control they have ... and if they could let go of their need to control .. and love their wife .. we would all be happier ... few of us need the level of money their other activities generate .. nor do we need the level of pain their extreme opinions generate ...

take care BELLA

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..and yet women chase 'successful' men ,,lucky successful men lol

Your welcome @Faith-and-Hope. It is nice to feel appreciated or otherwise it can lead to heartache and pain. I am glad to hear you have people in your life that reciprocate your kindness & care back to you. You are right is easy to care for people we love about deeply and people we hold a soft place in our hearts for, we don't meet people were we have that care, love & connection for ie romantic,family, friends. I have been fortunate to have a few people in my life I would move mountains for if need be.

Good to hear hubby got home okay last nite,and he must be a dedicated to jogging if he is out in the pouring rain.

I know what you mean about running on low energy, I think that is part of my problem too. It is difficult watch people we care about make mistakes or like you said do things the hard way but it might be their lessons to learn in life, and who knows it may lead to something bigger and better and growth that we can't see.

I have a tendency to dwell on things too but I am learning to let things go and to keep moving forward as much as I can. I think working through process makes us stronger, wiser and to be kinder and compassionate to others. I think the greatest gift we can give to others is kindness and a soft place to fall.

sweet heart ... my bro ... dear @TAB ... pleez accept that only SOME women chase successful men ... I never have ... yet have met a few

Hi @Former-Member

I did get my hair cut - it's very fine and aggressive - I have a double crown and a cow-lick at the back and my hair falls forward over my face so I wear clips to hold it back - and it can get uncontrollable overnight so I make my appointments in advance but didn't keep it last week because I had sinus pressure and giddyness - or giddiness - which ever makes your head spin more

Recurring dreams are the worst - I had one for years - and I was in a private clinic and the psyche I had at the time suggested I re-write the ending - I didn't want to - but I did - and he told the staff if I screamed during the night that was why - and I did - but since that night I don't know if I scream because I live alone - but I usually wake up before the dream ends now - feels horrible - but thinking back - it is a while since I had that one and I must be resolving that one

But it is horrible - and horrible when we wake up - I hope it doesn't happen again - for a while anyway

Decadian

And my successful man and I were babes when we met and married .... with not much between us .... pulled together through lotsa ups n downs n not-much-success-and-on-a-shoestring times ....

Definitely control issues outa control (or in rigid supreme control at the mo) but there's obviously more to it than that .... gotta let him run n run for now ....

wow .. an 'aggressive' hairdo for someone born before Hiroshima ..hmm ok thats hardcore

PS snap re twin crowns cowlick ee yah

i don't know how old your son is @Former-Member - but I know something of what you mean

As much as I could I would have everything done before the kids came home from school - dd would come skipping up the back yard - ready to watch her TV programmes with the portable TV in her bedroom - and that was all she would watch and turned it off when she was finished - never a problem like that - rarely a problem at all until her hormones kicked in

Son would be unpredictable - and I would be waiting until he came in the back gate - some days were fine but others would bring a face like thunder - and I knew I was in for a fine hair combing event too - ah - if ONLY he had indulged his habit for TV - but no - whatever happened at school was going to be enacted - and there would be phone calls at times - ah - what did they want me to do?

But your combing each fine hair rings bells in my memory - ships' bells - loud and discordant - ahh - no no no -

I can feel your shot nerves - okay - my shot nerves are echoing

Peace be with you - you are loved - I get it - I understand - so good I can say that and you know I have at least an idea

Thinking of you

Decadian