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Hi @Angels333

I guess you are feeling that you don't have the energy to deal with such a confrontation at this time

After all - you need more than finesse to deal with a child who is eating badly - perhaps has an eating disorder

When you are confronting other things at the same time it must feel as if it your fault that this is happening - but - ah - mm- your daughter is making decisions about that herself

Right now it's probably not the right time to deal with her weight - but how old is she - is she old enough to know what she is doing - does she even notice her weight

I know you feel badly and will feel badly - but alas - I have found out what a terrible mother I was when my kids were young - and I think this is normal - at least - I hope it is

But it is so hard for you to have to live through all of this - hopefully you can wait until your medication is working before you need a plan of how to approach this with your daughter

All the best with that - care heaps

Decadian

Ah yes @Angels333

That is a completely different conversation - and a harder one I would imagine

Does your husband know you are doing this or is the first time the subject will be coming up?

Either way - I wish you the best - and as they say - better you than me

I know a person is likely to sh when they have a worse pain somewhere else - it must be awful

This is tough - really hard stuff

Decadian

Hi @Angels333,

heres hoping an increase in Meds helps a bit. And that you're doctors suggestion helps.

I know this sounds like rhetoric but you have plenty of time to sort out parenting issues. Now is not the right time. I know from experience that this won't stop you from worrying but if you can just keep in mind when you begin to worry that now is not the time. I've made and continue to keep making mistakes with my sons and sometimes they feel huge and they're not and sometimes they really are big but I can't change that. In my respite time and from some beautiful people on the forum Im learning not to stress so much. When I'm good I put in the hard yards with him and when I'm bad things fall over and he misses out on having a mum to guide him. But as long as they know they are loved and have supports around them (grandparents, friends, counsellors, siblings, teachers etc) to help them when you can't it all works out. For my kids it has been school that has given them the security and predictability they've needed. A few supportive teachers too. With my youngest it's his girlfriend and the school counsellor. Have faith @Angels333 that as you begin to feel better you will do what you need because I know just from this forum what a caring and responsible person and mum you are. Take care, sending hugs💜😊

i ditto @Decadian too 💜

I also know @Angels333 that I do the same thing frequently and need to be reminded of the things I wrote above. That advice has been told to me a 100 times and probably will need to be 100 times more.

Oops @Angels333. just saw last post from you. I was on same page as @Decadian

best of luck with discussing it. I'm not sure of what advice but maybe it's still the same. When you're able do it then. I think that it's a good thing to share with him. But I agree you have to feel ready and probably prepared so you have the confidence and strength to follow through. Same principles as parenting really. Anyway best of luck. Thinking of you💜😊

i was going to delete my last post but maybe it will help me next time I'm having a worst parent in the world phase

Hey @Angels333,

When I was talking to my family about sh I found it helpful to give them some websites to read about it as well. I wasn't well enough to discuss it fully and they said it helped them to read about it more. It might help to print some off to help explain it to your hubby?

Just a thought, wishing you the best. 😊

It's great being on the same page with you @Former-Member

We seem to think a lot of the same ways - and you are always so thoughtful

WTG - and great suggestions for @Angels333 - for everyone

Decadian