Night Shift

Aw @Angels333

I am sorry about your daughter - and yes - you can talk about her here - after all - it is a very anonymous website and I never tell anyone what I read here - and I would assume other people have the same sense of privacy

Really - I don't know what it's like to have a child with an eating disorder - sometimes the thought gives me the horrors because that is something the kid has total control over and I learned something with a young friend who had the other way - too skinny - and she told me it was nothing about the food

So maybe this is the case with your daughter - I don't know

But having had an uncontrolable son I know there are things you can't do - and I so understand your feelings of failure

Is your daughter having any kind of councelling about her eating habits? I wish I could be more helpful

One thing I can think is that what happens if you say something? Or what happens if you say nothing? What if you try and intervene? What happens if you let her take the consequences?

Wow - @Angels333 - that is a toughie

If it helps - talk about it with us - if you are comfortable with that

Decadian

Hi @Angels333

There are just so many things for us mums to worry about and feel guilty over.

sorry things are difficult for you at the moment.

My life feels just so increditbly, overwhelmingly complex and complicated, with so many different things going on in the next few weeks i cant breathe. constantly on alert and my heart rate (according to my fitbit) is sitting at about 15 beats higher at its resting rate than two weeks ago. But also feel like life has been like this for 3 years now and i should be somehow 'used' to it and better at coping... gah?!

lj

And yes - I am glad you are seeing your doctor tomorrow - I hope you can talk to him or her about all of this

That is a question to be asked @Former-Member

Why is it that we Mums feel guilty about so many things that our kids do or don't do?

I have learned in recent years what a terrible cook I was - and what a terrible snoop I was asking questions about school work - not whether it was done or not - but an interested in what was happening

Both such bad things - I did not know at the time - and it's a puzzle to me why I feel worse about these things that I did not know about when my son was into crime - at least I knew what he was doing

But somehow as mothers we can get flack - and I have to ask - do kids wait until they grow up before they find something to make their mothers feel bad about

Bottom line - we do our best and there are no perfect mothers - or at least - I haven't met one

We do our best - and sometimes we are overwhelmed - alas - we are human too - as our kids are

Decadian

@Former-Member

I am guessing that you have progressed in your coping skills, but the changes have been gradual and you are not conscious of them ..

You have a lot of emotive stuff going on too, and that is roller-coaster territory, for anybody ....

Take care of you ... do something special for yourself every now and then, to remind yourself that you matter, and how you feel matters too.

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@Faith-and-Hope i might have to get one

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