What can I do to help her

Yep, Im feeling it today and told my hubby to go have a beer with some mates.

A draining day with an additional personality/character/voice developing. I got to have a conversation with this new character for 20 minutes today.

My son was scared for he has only seen scary, hostle characters. I stayed stong and asked many questions. This new character is calm and relaxed, more than what I was. He said that my daughters room was messy...................LOL, I like him already. ( Deep down I wanted to cry)

My daughter is back at the moment, knows nothing of the event and is now asking me all the questions about the new character.

I ran CAMHS and they said to keep an eye on her and to ring back if anything major occurs. Not much can be done until she acts out violent.

Ummmmmmmmmm. She shouldnt have to put up with this period!!!!!!! She is being beaten up mentally, its interupting her school work, she is drained and doesnt deserve this.

Be aware of the characters and do your own research into DID beyond United States of Tara....

maybe its her way of trying to be mature and face up to issues but also distancing herself from not being perfect ... we all want to be perfect ... but there is no hope for that ...we are all in the same boat there.

Dear @Nay you are probably the person who will make the most difference for your daughter even when she gets to see MH professionals.

Yes there is the unfortunate reality that the squeaky wheel gets the attention ... it is BIG issue for the MH field ... because beautiful creative sensitive souls are not put to the top of the list ... it is almost goading people to get aggressive to get help ...

@PeppiPatty has a lovely encouraging style and lots of experience.

It is not easy what you are facing ... but she will always be your beloved daughter ... adolescence is so tricky in this complex age ...

I have never watched that show and I am very wary of these characters.

I was put on the spot, in the car today when my son said " Mum, she keeps saying hey brother to me ". In a confined space, sitting next to my baby boy, I felt fear.

I pulled over and stopped the car. It wasnt my daughter.

All her life I have dismissed her behaviour and thought she was just trying to be cool and fit in.

After seeing the fear in her eyes when she said " You think Im lying? You think this is normal? They have threated to murder my family, is this normal? I cant forget the fear and tears in her eyes.

Any threat against my family, I take serious.

I understand where you are both coming from. I am glad that these issues have been brought up.

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@justanother47yr wrote:
Dearest @Nay

When I remet my darling husband ..... Before we got married ...... We went to High School together ....... His iq is 150 ............. it was very exciting
I made some bad mistakes ...........
All from being burnt out and not seeing things realistically
Anne
You are writing like a woman who has it much more together than I ever did ...... You are using compassion and love so much better than I ever did
I was a good enough mum for my two children though in very difficult / extreme circumstances
@Appleblossom ........ What I love about you is that we can both disagree and still see good ...... Do you really think that stupid show with Toni Collette is good ? She is like my absolute favourite actress ....... But I don't see that in @Nay's daughter .......
Please forgive me but you might be right in research ........

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Seeing my husband crying on the phone to helpline because we dont know what to do for her breakes my heart.

Hi Nay,

Do you know the exact age this started happening with your daughter?

Do her hallucinations consist primarily of auditory voices or has she ever mentioned other symptoms such as visual hallucinations (seeing things not there) or any physical symptoms?

Whats her self esteem like in general?

When you talk about concepts such as self-esteem with your daughter is she able to understand what these concepts mean?

Ideally either you or the Psychologist she sees will hopefully be able to find out whether your daughter is able to distinguish between voices versus her own internal self talk.

No, I am unsure of the age when they began. I recall her talking about a 2 voices when she was younger around 6 and didnt give them names until she was 9.

She can hear the 3 voices ( a new character arrived today ) with her eyes open and when her eyes are closed she can physically see them and can talk to them.

She is such a caring, beautiful, gentle, kind sole that thinks everyone is nice and feels compelled to help others. She is never angry and is so respectful.

I always thougth her self esteem was good and she always gives things ago. I really dont know now.

She doesnt volunteer information. I have to ask and she will answer in detail.

No @PeppiPatty I have never been a big TV watcher ... but sometimes I know I sound too technical. You often criticise my writing, but If I actually know a popular reference, I throw it into the mix in case it makes sense to someone. I can write lotsa styles .. its what I was trained to do ...scientfic essays etc ..

Yes @PeppiPatty we had extremely different lives .. I mentioned it early in our "relationship" that we are coming from different places. I am guessing your childhood was a lot safer and more comfortable than mine in the first 20 years, I tried to be polite about your sneakers but I dont have a lot of time for fashion stuff ... though now have some glad rags so I can BLEND in with normal people.

@Nay I first read SYBIL the first well-known example of DID. My exhusband had it 30 years ago and tried to get me to help him overcome his schizophrenia. I have read everything I can get my hands on re MI, but a bit out of date now.

I didnt mean to underplay the difficulty of your struggle by mentioning a tv show ... just trying to engage.with any tool available. Open up the ideas ...I feel a lot for your daughter too ... I think I was often borderline like her ... but somehow never went there. I have many almost discrete selves .. @PeppiPatty has been a little confused by my different faces or hats ?? it is just that I am aware of them.

@Nay it is just so good that your daughter trusts you .. I am sure it will mean a better prognosis.... managing your son's awareness while you are getting her help will be important .. taking him out alone and trying to get him to be sympathetic and not interefere or put her down.

Fear in the eyes of her child is one of the most difficult things for a mum to see.

I hope you manage to get good professional care for her.