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Hi @outlander

Your studies are worth something - you have made a start on learning something as you find your way out of the trap you are caught in - working too hard caring for your sisters and not given enough to find out who and what you are - unable to find a way to work your way toward a possible aim because you are being abused emotionally and psychologically and this is not your fault.

My daughter was doing a gardening apprenticeship when she was your age - she needed year 11 to do that and needed maths and art - which she had - and there has to be a reason she could do that

It was because her Dad and I gave her the chance - she chose a trade rather than an academic future and we supported her - and we supported her financially until she moved out with a bf - but she still came home to study -

You have not had this chance - and nothing you do is good enough - it's not your fault - and this is so disappointing

No way are you a failure - I have read what you do each day as well as care for your pop and your sisters and your paddock work - you cook and clean and do the laundry and whatever else for a family of 6 and that is a tall order - does anyone thank you?

Now you had your sisters for several days during school holidays when you had an operation and the results showed a type of cancer and you need another operation but instead of support you were loaded with your sisters while you were freaking out about your diagnoses and how bad this is - anyone would be shaken up by that

You are no loser but someone who is doing as much as they possibly can while under tremendous pressure and this has to be so hard - so terribly terribly hard - and you lasted several days until the understandable stress blew you down

No one here thinks you are a failure - I think you are brilliant -

you have not had the chance to learn - one way is peer review and you do not have the chance to do that - this is not your fault - you have been denied freedoms that are a right for people in this country and I am so sad about this -

You are a very kind, intelligent person - we can tell you this all the time and it is not something that works very well - you have been run down by someone whose voice is stronger and this is not good - you do deserve better to be better

And I know you are doing your best and no one can do more than their best

Dec

Hi @Sans911

You seem sensible and write well - I have appreciated your "likes" for what I have written - this means a great deal to me

Dec

And yes - it was @outlander who got me to use an owl for my avatar - I feel like the wise kind owl and I think you wrote this today also - thanks

It won't hurt @outlander

You have needed to cry for days and now you can -

Tears contain a hormone that builds up in the body and causes stress and other things like that and when we cry we release that

It's okay to cry - it's safe to cry

Dec

I know @outlander

I can hear, I can see, I can tell

Those tears have been held back for a long time - right now it's the best thing you can do

If you could make something happen that would make your life better - such a hard question to answer - but what would that be?

Dec