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Taking the plunge
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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It is scary at times @Maggie but Big makes it as easy as it could be I think. Middle is my worry. They are younger in emotional and social maturity by a lot but their year level at school is making them grow up fast. This one does it tough which can be tough :face_with_rolling_eyes: Hopefully they'll have regular arms after today 🙂
Gosh Maggie that would be hard. I would love to learn more. Do you know of any books that I could get my hands on through a library or online? No pressure to find something but very interested if you can. I am sorry that things have happened that have made life challenging like this.
I had better go. We are running late already 😒 I put a pic of Mousey up on the wellbeing thread. I've wanted to share her in colour for years but haven't been brave enough. It might come down in a little while but if you have a moment I'd love for you to see before it does.
Catch you all later xxx
Gosh Maggie that would be hard. I would love to learn more. Do you know of any books that I could get my hands on through a library or online? No pressure to find something but very interested if you can. I am sorry that things have happened that have made life challenging like this.
I had better go. We are running late already 😒 I put a pic of Mousey up on the wellbeing thread. I've wanted to share her in colour for years but haven't been brave enough. It might come down in a little while but if you have a moment I'd love for you to see before it does.
Catch you all later xxx
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TheVorticonSenior Contributor
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@Maggie @CheerBear yeah, plenty to think about with it. Big thing was regarding diagnosis that he's not thinking what I thought he might be thinking. A good thing, but also leaves me with a bit of "OK so is it just ______?!!" with a blank that's still unfilled for me (I'm not sure what I need to fill the blank but it's more than what my psych's explanation is). But I have to try not to get frustrated about that.
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Hi @TheVorticon 👋
@Maggie ... sometimes its the old dogs who are most keen to learn. 😊👍🌹
@CheerBear ... thinking of you with the hospital trip today. Visitng hospitals either as an outpatient or visiting someone in hospital is a nightmare right now. Mr Sherry had his oncologist 3-monthly consult on Wednesday and the oncology section is a seperate part of our local hospital in the next town. We rolled up for the apt, but then got told we had to go all the way around the other end of the hospital to get a temp check at a nurses station. That provides a sticker to say you are an allowed visitor. Then you have to go all the way back around to go up another lift to get to the oncology and renal section. As its a totally insular section ... wouldnt you think they would have a nurses station especially for that section .. .either in the carpark where the lift originates, or at the top of the lift where you get out? Especially when you are talking about cancer and renal patients. Its no easy thing to move them around. Pain in the butt to say the least.
You didnt say whether your apt was morning or afternoon. Either way, I really hope its a good outcome for Middle and the plaster caste removal, etc.
Thinking of you all today.
Sherry 💕
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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@TheVorticon I think I would be frustrated with what you are dealing with.
Is your psych trying to find a diagnosis, or not wanting to tell you what he thinks it might be. ( no obligation to answer). Definitely frustrating.
@Former-Member Oh wow, that makes hard work of an already hard situation. Given the run around with a sick ( and grumpy ) 😩😩 hubby. I hope you don’t have to got back in a hurry.
@CheerBear Thinking of you and Middle also.
A few books I found helpful and should be in the library.
1. The Dissiciative Identifies Disorder Resource Book by Deborah Bray Haddock
2. Coping with trauma related dissociation by Suzette Boon and Kathy Steele.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Hi again
@TheVorticon that does sound frustrating. Did you have a conversation with him asking about the diagnosis thing that was worrying you (the knowing vs not knowing)? That sounds kind of big in itself.
@Former-Member thanks for your thoughts. We have the same kind of thing happening here with screening. Lines, temps, one person per person, stickers, one way stuff happening etc. It's made the hospital a lot quieter than usual though which I kind of like. We've waited 3+ hours at this clinic before and now it's been less than hour (about 10 mins today). Very tricky with a cranky husband though.
@Maggie how did counsellor go? Thank you for sharing those book names. I will have a look around.
We had a hiccupy morning but Middle has two free arms again 🎉. Their bones are strange, as are these fractures, so we also had an appointment with our family GP also (phone appt with me). The big thing, which is still sinking in, is that our GP has diagnosed Middle with an eating disorder - ARFID (avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder). GP asked how I felt about it, if it was OK to go there officially (part of me wanted to say no and maybe in the past I would have), and then spoke with me about what supports it will open up for Middle.
I don't know how I feel about it. An ED isn't great and I am trying not to do the whole parent fail/where did I go wrong thing. But I also know there's something not OK happening for Middle and have for a while, so being able to get some proper support for it will help. Part of me, the maybe super selfish part, feels a bit frustrated that right now, when lots seems to be falling in to place for me, this happens. Then I realise this has been happening for ages and a name doesn't change that. Part of me also feels validated that the challenges Middle has, and that I have as a parent of Middle, are real too. I think I'm a bit jumbled up but kind of relieved too.
I guess I just wanted to share and blurt it out somewhere. Thanks for reading if you did.
@TheVorticon that does sound frustrating. Did you have a conversation with him asking about the diagnosis thing that was worrying you (the knowing vs not knowing)? That sounds kind of big in itself.
@Former-Member thanks for your thoughts. We have the same kind of thing happening here with screening. Lines, temps, one person per person, stickers, one way stuff happening etc. It's made the hospital a lot quieter than usual though which I kind of like. We've waited 3+ hours at this clinic before and now it's been less than hour (about 10 mins today). Very tricky with a cranky husband though.
@Maggie how did counsellor go? Thank you for sharing those book names. I will have a look around.
We had a hiccupy morning but Middle has two free arms again 🎉. Their bones are strange, as are these fractures, so we also had an appointment with our family GP also (phone appt with me). The big thing, which is still sinking in, is that our GP has diagnosed Middle with an eating disorder - ARFID (avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder). GP asked how I felt about it, if it was OK to go there officially (part of me wanted to say no and maybe in the past I would have), and then spoke with me about what supports it will open up for Middle.
I don't know how I feel about it. An ED isn't great and I am trying not to do the whole parent fail/where did I go wrong thing. But I also know there's something not OK happening for Middle and have for a while, so being able to get some proper support for it will help. Part of me, the maybe super selfish part, feels a bit frustrated that right now, when lots seems to be falling in to place for me, this happens. Then I realise this has been happening for ages and a name doesn't change that. Part of me also feels validated that the challenges Middle has, and that I have as a parent of Middle, are real too. I think I'm a bit jumbled up but kind of relieved too.
I guess I just wanted to share and blurt it out somewhere. Thanks for reading if you did.
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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@CheerBear Proper support for Middle sounds like a really good thing, and support for you, it affects you both, probably, all of you.
It will take time to sink in @CheerBear . No use asking you not to worry, churn and all the other gremlins racing around in your mind. But try to go gently with you, where you can. It’s not you fault......honestly it is not. You are a great mum, a big part of you knows that. 💞💞
I dont think its super selfish to want things to move smoothly for once @CheerBear , more just being human, and having worked through major trauma. A smooth period is a small, unselfish act. The work you do is helping others. Things are still falling into place, just a few pieces out of place, or maybe falling into place also.
Yes, I get the jumbled and relieved stuff. Can you get take away tonight?🎂🎂
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Unknown userMember
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@CheerBear ... well, its good news that Middle has the cast off and has 2 free arms once more. Is the GP suggesting the reason for Middles numerous fractures and not-so-good healing is due to the ED? I guess that makes sense. Well, I guess at least now that you have a 'name' and diagnosis for Middle, then it will open up some additional support for them. Not all bad in other words. Sorry to hear you are going through all the inevitable thought process of "where did I fail as a parent" thing. Thats not correct, nor is it helpful to anyone. I guess relief comes with knowledge as well as vindication that you were right to be concerned.
I'm glad you shared .. as they say ... a burden shared is a burden halved. I think I got that right? 🌸
I too was wondering how your counsellor visit went to day @Maggie ... well I hope. 💕
Sherry
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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@CheerBear @Former-Member I’m not sure to be honest, about how counsellor went today. I’ve been a shaking mess since. Unsure what is going on. Not a new thing, annoying and uncertain.
I’m going offline for a bit to try and settle the shaking. Hope your evenings go ok. 💙💙💙💙 Thanks for asking.
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Unknown userMember
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Sorry to hear that @Maggie ... please take good care of yourself. 🤗🌸💕
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Morning everyone.
@Maggie how are you this morning? Your yesterday sounds really tough. Did the worry about not knowing what might be shared happen? Here with and for you 💜🙁
@Former-Member thanks for listening and caring yesterday. I appreciate you @Former-Member.
@TheVorticon, @outlander and all - 👋 and ☕
@Maggie how are you this morning? Your yesterday sounds really tough. Did the worry about not knowing what might be shared happen? Here with and for you 💜🙁
@Former-Member thanks for listening and caring yesterday. I appreciate you @Former-Member.
@TheVorticon, @outlander and all - 👋 and ☕
