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Taking the plunge
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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Dropping off an early ☕️☕️☕️☕️ @CheerBear @Former-Member .
School lunches, books and everything else this morning @CheerBear . Hopefully some you time once the drop off happens. Time to think about all the ‘big’ and ‘ homework ‘.💜💜
@Former-Member Tough going, really sorry.💜💜
@outlander Thanks for the warm fuzzies, sending mega back to you. That made me smile this morning..thanks 💜💜
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Just about to do the same (drop off an early ☕) @Maggie. I'm having rocket cat cuddled in bed so haven't quite made it up and out yet.
How are you this morning? How was the rest of your yesterday?
How are you this morning? How was the rest of your yesterday?
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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I wish I could give you a coffee in bed with rocket cat cuddles. ☕️☕️😻😻
I have a sleeping ( finally) puppy.🐶🐶
So much of yesterday was a mini circus with kind of friend and her friend. Dramas plus.
Today I have cleaning help, so it will be good....eventually....just another learning curve, emphasis on the curve.
Did you do some yarning yesterday? 🧶🧶
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Naughty puppy and kitty @Maggie, being up at silly o'clock!
Sorry about the drama yesterday 😕 Is it a stuck in the middle kind of situation for you?
I did yarn yesterday 🙂 I finally finished part 2. It's taken way longer than I thought it would but that's OK. I'll pop a pic up in a sec (with my smashed camera so it's not a particularly colour accurate image).
Curveball here yesterday Maggie. Me, the shameful secret, is out and not in a calm way but more of an oopsies way. I am stuck a bit, not wanting to talk here but wanting to talk and not having that chance until the end of the week. I'm that one everyone loves to hate and no matter what happens from here I don't expect that will ever change. I don't need to say anymore but that's where I'm at today.
How are you feeling in the lead up to cleaning today?
Sorry about the drama yesterday 😕 Is it a stuck in the middle kind of situation for you?
I did yarn yesterday 🙂 I finally finished part 2. It's taken way longer than I thought it would but that's OK. I'll pop a pic up in a sec (with my smashed camera so it's not a particularly colour accurate image).
Curveball here yesterday Maggie. Me, the shameful secret, is out and not in a calm way but more of an oopsies way. I am stuck a bit, not wanting to talk here but wanting to talk and not having that chance until the end of the week. I'm that one everyone loves to hate and no matter what happens from here I don't expect that will ever change. I don't need to say anymore but that's where I'm at today.
How are you feeling in the lead up to cleaning today?
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member you're up early too. ❤ for you
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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Oh dear @CheerBear . That must be super hard in almost every way possible. Sometimes @CheerBear the one we all hate changes when we become the ‘one’. I don’t hate you and never will. I’ve been in the ‘ one’ seat. Very uncomfortable. I’m sorry it’s happening this way. 💜💜
Often people don’t face the fact that a relationship is over. Then others get blamed. Stuck in the middle......like me yesterday. Tricky and sticky.
The cleaning thing is feeling better today. The lady is lovely, that helps. She told me last time her daughter thought their tiny pigs ( can’t spell the right word ). Needed to socialise. They have 6 now. Lol.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Thank you @Maggie, lots. The finger of blame will be squarely my way at the expense of considering what really led to the end of the relationship. People are hurt and hurting 🙁 I feel silly about my need to learn things the hard way.
Anyway... my bad. It's not like I wasn't told it would happen 🙁
Stuck in the middle isn't fun. I'm sorry you're there in it all. The boundaries getting tested by the sound of it?
That made me giggle with the tiny pigs multiplying 😁 It's great that she's lovely and that it's feeling a little better for you. It's a big thing you've done accepting this support ❤
Anyway... my bad. It's not like I wasn't told it would happen 🙁
Stuck in the middle isn't fun. I'm sorry you're there in it all. The boundaries getting tested by the sound of it?
That made me giggle with the tiny pigs multiplying 😁 It's great that she's lovely and that it's feeling a little better for you. It's a big thing you've done accepting this support ❤
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MaggieSenior Contributor
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@CheerBear I’m sorry people are hurting, just like you are. If it wasn’t you, it would be someone else. Hard lessons are learnt by all of us @CheerBear , not just you. 💚💚💚💚
Time is a great healer. Unfortunately though, painful.
I hope there’s good mixed in and around the tricky stuff.
I don’t know if it’s a boundary thing with my ladies. They are not aware how the affect others, or it might just be me....the invisible, unimportant...me. I just go quiet and implode. Triggering. But it is what it is, I can’t change that.
The acceptance of support hasn’t / isn’t easy. More necessary than anything else. Admitting help is needed. 😩😩😩
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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It will test whether I am more than an oopsies @Maggie. He says yes but we'll see. I think things being out in the open gives them a chance to be worked through maybe. For now it's understandably very raw, very painful and very confusing for many. I feel like hiding under a rock 😕 Thank you very much for listening and for not hating too.
Hugs for your invisible, unimportant feels. That is triggering and super hard. Do you ever explode rather than implode? It's a fight I have often.
It's not easy at all to accept support and it's really difficult when it comes from a place of being needed. Rock and a hard place. You're doing so well to tolerate it.
Our toilet just decided to break down by the look of it. It's been on its way out for ages, just hanging on after patch up job after patch up job by the owner. They haven't renewed our lease (haven't give notice yet either though so at least that's one thing I guess). I definitely did not need another thing to p. the owners off or another reason to communicate with the agents who were absolutely fuming when I last saw them at the hearing. The house is in no way tidy enough to have the owner over to (not) fix something. But we kind of need a working, flushing toilet too. I should have stayed in bed with Rocket cat today :face_with_rolling_eyes:🤨
I'm going to see if I can fix this loo (I was an electrician recently with the washing machine - perhaps I can be a plumber today 😆) then figure out a plan of attack for the day. Then maybe just spend the day under a rock instead 😉
Thanks for the coffee, company Maggie and the awesome listening eyes 👀💙🌈
Hugs for your invisible, unimportant feels. That is triggering and super hard. Do you ever explode rather than implode? It's a fight I have often.
It's not easy at all to accept support and it's really difficult when it comes from a place of being needed. Rock and a hard place. You're doing so well to tolerate it.
Our toilet just decided to break down by the look of it. It's been on its way out for ages, just hanging on after patch up job after patch up job by the owner. They haven't renewed our lease (haven't give notice yet either though so at least that's one thing I guess). I definitely did not need another thing to p. the owners off or another reason to communicate with the agents who were absolutely fuming when I last saw them at the hearing. The house is in no way tidy enough to have the owner over to (not) fix something. But we kind of need a working, flushing toilet too. I should have stayed in bed with Rocket cat today :face_with_rolling_eyes:🤨
I'm going to see if I can fix this loo (I was an electrician recently with the washing machine - perhaps I can be a plumber today 😆) then figure out a plan of attack for the day. Then maybe just spend the day under a rock instead 😉
Thanks for the coffee, company Maggie and the awesome listening eyes 👀💙🌈
