Really freaking out about the future

@MDT - at the moment you are worrying about things that haven’t happened. Concentrate on getting the best marks you can at uni whilst availing yourself to job expos, honing interview skills, putting feelers out, applying for grad roles. And if things don’t pan out the exact way you want them to, it’s not the end of the world.

Find a job, any job even if it’s not directly related to your field of study. That at least will give you some confidence and money. Then keep looking for opportunities. You don’t have to and it’s not realistic, to fall into your ideal role straight out of uni.

It will be okay. You’d be surprised how many others feel the way you do. Out of my daughter’s cohort, I think only two of her friends found employment after uni. Life goes on. My daughter changed her course three times in two years, then quit altogether. She was second to Dux at her school. She worked in retail and office jobs for a while and has only now gone back to part time study.

I think about what she could have achieved and where she would be now if she applied herself and hadn’t chopped and changed but she’s happy so that’s the main thing.

Things will fall into place for you. Give it time.

@MDT - didn't you mean

off to uni this morning
i feel a little better atm but still waking up
have to prepare for the exciting things that may happen over the weekend!!

Hi @MDT

What are you studying at university? I completed an Honours Degree when I was 50 - it took me 12 years doing two subjects per year studying part time - ah yes - English Literature

The week end - because you are alone - I am too -

When I was at university I would go to the university library and study on the floor in the stacks surrounded by books - I did this a lot - it was so quiet and peaceful there - but now I know you do a lot of work on line which wasn't available back in the dark ages - last millenium

Have you thought of devoting the weekend to your assignments as I did - because I worked during the week - we all have to study sometime - why not the weekends?

Yeah - I am alone all weekend myself and I still get into the information highway on the internet - I watch and record documentaries that interest me and follow up what's interesting on the net

I understand - it can get so quiet at home you feel the silence is deafening - but there is always us here - sharing whatever is happening

Dec

I hear you @MDT

But then you are where you are making your future

I had a friend who use to do things she hated so she could tell people she had taken her children away to wherever or did this or that to feel okay about what she had done during the holidays - it might have sounded okay but she wasn't happy either

One school holidays I spent the whole time reading The Iliad for my studies - I felt fine about that - it took a few readings over time but to me it was a great read

We are building our future but truly - none of us know how much future we have - I have most of my future in the past - time itself assures that truth - but

When I was younger - I really filled my life - and this is over years - trying to think - 20 years - I felt as if I lived three lifetimes at once and now I have great memories

So I know you are young - I have been reading what you have been writing though I have not felt okay about answering until now - but even then - the future - you are freaking out about that - I hear you

So I have to ask what it is about the future that freaks you out. We are all alone basically - I think a lot of people make a lot of noise seeming to have a life - but do they?

I say study - do your assignments and prepare for your exams - that's having a life

Been there - I know

All the best - I am still around being contrary

Dec