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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
As a person who grew up without boundaries I am realising how natural it is that establishing boundaries is not my forte.
I probably perservered with building connection for far too long.
What do people think of this simple difference between caretaking and caregiving?
http://mhr4c.com.au/coping-strategies/caregiver-vs-caretaker/
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Thanks @Former-Member I will look at it.
I spent last night listening to other 2 videos by Patrick McKeon.
I saw another video which admitted to the spectrum between diagnoses, BiPolar and the Schizophrenias, which is what I have always believed.
Facing up to the one written dx I have seen for my boy, which is BiPolar I. Why is he not on the med that is cheapest and most effective. Seems I have a lot of advocating to do to get him help.
[Edit} Read it. Yes. I have lived in a hi-jacked house for 15 years.Slight moves to take it back over last 2 years. My son has found the maturity to apologise for being so hard on me, but the reality is that he is not well and I was walking on egg shells.
I hope through our current crisis, he can finally get the help that he deserves.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Thanks @BenHarper I did not see your response til now.
When I said your lady was lucky I did not mean to minimise her pain, but that she has someone to care.
Oh yes it is a very legitmate interest, but it was something about the way he engaged with me on it that worried me. We are now in a full blown episode 3 weeks later. It is his 2nd episode, his first was 3 years ago. It is serious enough, that it is now out of my hands and I have to pray that the justice system can help bring about some justice.
I am a greenie who did Geology 30 years ago but refused to work in mining. My son was engaging with it on a very current and well documented level, but it was the level of fear he aroused in me that aroused my concern re his MH, just a sign of how close we are, I guess. So that week I went to a lecture at my old lecture theatre and took the temperature of the best academics in our country, did a lot of research and pulled back my fear level regarding selling my house and moving to the mountains. I had an agent value our house so all was transparent for my son, so he could see what our various options are. I guess I am now trained in reality testing as his dad had schizophrenia.
But for now I have to get a team on my son's side and will be tied up with his GENUINE needs for a while.
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TokiContributor
I can't believe how simple it is. And here I was trying to make it complicated... Thank you for this link
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @outlander and @PeppiPatty
this is the thread i was telling you about xx
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outlanderSenior Contributor
thanks @Shaz51 
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