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The ALL-YEAR-ROUND job of DECLUTTERING and CLEANING our homes is daunting. Especially for those of us who HOARD, or struggle with depression, and decisions, anxiety & other MI. I'm so challenged in this way so reaching out for support. Maybe start an Declutterers Army 💪
If you suffer the same challenge or have some great suggestions - type away... 💙💜💙💜💙💜💙
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AdgeSenior Contributor
Thanks @Faith-and-Hope
It's hard to buy things for myself, especially with Christmas in mind.
My psych suggested that I buy things for myself, to the value of at least one of the hamper parcels that I sent. I didn't actually spend that much on myself, but it's a start.
I agree with the cards. I always keep mine for a year or so, even though I don't display them.
It is really nice of people to send Christmas (or Birthday) cards. Although people don't seem to send them anywhere near as much as they used to.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Merry Christmas everyone ..... 🎄❤️🌟
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AdgeSenior Contributor
Yes @Former-Member I did send several hampers to all my family members in Sydney, but didn't get special stuff (or presents) for myself.
That's what my psychologist wasn't happy about - I could see the look of disapproval on her face. Then she said that my homework was to buy some nice things for myself (including a bottle of Scotch).
I like Whiskey, but I rarely ever drink it - except when I was rarely given a bottle as a present, years ago.
So I bought one for myself, for about the first time ever. One N...p (Shot Glass) is equivalent to one standard sized drink, so you only have a little at a time.
Besides, being that expensive, you wouldn't want to drink it in a hurry...
Yes I'm very sensitive to noise too, it drives me totally bonkers.
Yes my self-care does need lots of work & improvement.
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member
No - it's not you - you can be put of by just an off-hand and rude comment from your son - what an over-reaction for a question
I think he must have pulled his horns in because his behaviour improved but what he said indicates disrespect - and you don't deserve that
You are right - it's not your fault that your mother is critically ill and that circumstances have made him an only child and that you live alone and whatever happened to his father - he doesn't need to take it out on you
Through the years I have a bit of that from my daughter - she has spoken to me in ways I would never have spoken to my mother - and it can be so hard to take - but we do teach people how to treat us and ot seems you stood up for yourself
I am not expecting you had the best Christmas ever - but I continue to think of you and hope things are moving along and it must be so hard for you right now
Cyber-hugs sis - thinking of you
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