SPRING-Clean Declutter - Need Help

Hi @Former-Member - it must have been difficult parting with that furniture especially the bed but it was a great idea to take the photos. I know what it's like when things stop us in our tracks when we see them and touch them. I have so much stuff that is really just a "memory holder" more than anything else but we'll always treasure the memory that it held... the memory lives inside us not in the physical thing if that makes sense. You're an inspiration to me in so many ways and I'm really going to get stuck into the decluttering and sorting out my life. I ordered new blinds today... twenty years I've lived here with crappy falling-apart venetians from the 1950s and finally got the quote last week. I hope I can maintain the motivation to tidy up and get rid of stuff and fix the things that need fixing. And @Adge - is it wisteria you're thinking of? I have some along my driveway fixed to steel mesh - grows really fast and is great for screening.

Glad to hear that yo son will be home for Christmas @Former-Member ,... ❣️

Western Christmas this year @Former-Member ..... but a quiet one. It’s been a big year and none of us have much stuffing ...... but that’s okay. Quiet is good sometimes .....

💜Thanks @Former-Member ..... 🤗💕

Hi @Former-Member

I am so glad your son is coming home for Christmas - I wish the best possible time for both of you

I will be spending time with my daughter and her family - I only see the little kids around Christmas each year - for some time it seemed as if there were more each Christmas - now I think they are just getting bigger each Christmas

It's a time that both of us have someone really precious to miss - to wish for - to pray for - to still send our love - we are together in this

Yesterday was another anniversary - this time it was okay - the passage of years does make a difference I promise you -

And I am hoping you are really up to going to help your parents out again - it's really wonderful that you do - I hope your health is okay - I know Sydney can get really humid in the summer -

All the best Lapses

Dec

Thanks @Owlunar, I hear you, and appreciate you being here. I'm in a quandry as mum has asked me to come visit (for '4 days') 😕 help her put the tree up 😕 But now she's back in hospital & I think time is near.

My boss is peed I've pulled the pin on my 4hr shift Thursday, to go be with mum, & today i hear shes bitched to my work mates about it. Also, because of this - the whole shop now knows my house is empty - I expect more from bosses "the boss is REALLY 'pissed' at you" I heard today. I don't understand as there's still x4 staff on that day, small shop. Don't need this.

I keep freezing trying to pack to go

I really wanna be here 4 my son 4Christmas.

I'm not sure what to do, if mum will live that long... its not good at all,

I need to go but can't concentrate to pack properly. I donno

Hi @Former-Member

I'm glad we are here at the same time - and you have a lot on your mind right now and Christmas - oh dear - how things can gang up on us

Forget about your boss right now Sweetie - you have more important things on your mind - I think you earn a little where you work but it could be classed as Voluntary Work I think and it's pretty rude of them to bitch to the other staff but they have done what might be the right thing and let your know - so you know. Perhaps you would rather now but here we are

But your son and your mother are more important

Can you get to Sydney and be back in time to have Christmas with your son and then go back to help your Mum out - and sheesh - hold her hand when she passes - really - that is such a priorty for you but I know - I think I do anyway - that you are torn between being there for your son and your mother and what to do - what to do?

Oh dear me.

Before my Mum passed - I told her (I whispered in her ear) she was forgiven and sanctified by my faith and even though her body sorta stayed alive for a few days her spirit left - I could just tell. I had forgiven her for her bitterness long before - no one can stop us from forgiving them as resentful as they might be about it - and I know my mother had many regrets about the way she treated me,

Maybe your Mum does too - this is so hard for you Lapses - I can only hold your hand through cyber-space and pray for you and really really care

Keep in touch about what you are doing - a close relative of mine is really ill right now and I am thinking that person might leave us sometime soon - so in this we are together again

Lots and lots of really gentle hugs Lapses

Dec