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Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor31 Aug 2017, 7:44 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

This month we welcome Mental Health Carers NSW to share some information and tips on the changes that take place once a loved one turns 18.

When a loved one turns 18, dynamics can shift. This can be due to many things, including -

A loved one moving out of the family home
Guardianship responsibilities change
Reduction in access to confidential and private information related to treatment

In this Topic Tuesday we will look at what rights you have (and don't have) and how you can continue to have a positive relationship with your loved one once they turn 18.

Join us from 7pm AEST to learn more and share your own experiences.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

JonCarerContributor26 Sept 2017, 8:06 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

One great practical tip is to try to come to a common understanding with your young person about any mental health issue they are experiencing and to get them to 'buy in' to recieving support through gentle engagement.

This can be done by discussing the specific problems their mental health might be causing in their lives and helping to plan how to deal with them together.

This can be effective at any age but using sensitive, empowering techniques (like Open Dialogue) that respect autonomy and engage the person in designing their own care can be very effective in helping the young person and their family and carers feel that they can get better control over their situation

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JonCarerContributor26 Sept 2017, 8:09 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Some good tools for this kind of joint planning can be the Wellness Recovery Action Plans, which provide some templates and prompts for these kinds of plans.

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

NikNikSenior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 8:09 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Great point about Open Dialogue. For those who haven't heard of Open Dialogue before, you can read more here

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JonCarerContributor26 Sept 2017, 8:13 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

I should just clarify one point, under NSW Mental Health Regulations, parents will automatically be 'designated carers, but the Mental Health Review Tribunal must approave all involuntary treatment for a person under 16 if they do not consent to it.

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YTTSenior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 8:13 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

thanks for the info,

My daughter refuses to tell me what happens in her sessions. Actually she now refuses to talk to me in general - "i don't need help, I can do this myself" etc etc

We had a psycologist session today, I have no idea how my daughter is doing. We have a psychiatrist session next week that I'm allowed to attend, I'm going to bring up my worries of lack of input from us.

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NikNikSenior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 8:14 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Wellness Recovery Action Plan (WRAP) is another good one. I'm only new to this one. Here is more info for those who want to learn more.

Great tips @JonCarer

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JonCarerContributor26 Sept 2017, 8:21 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

It is very hard, but particularly if people are discussing their confronting thoughts, or beliefs they may suspect aren't true, etc., then what is discussed between the psychologist or other therapists may need to remain just between them, as we don't want any embarrassment to prevent people from being really honest about what is troubling them and getting the best help possible as a result.

This is part of a child's autonomy developing if it is in such a context.

But you should be advised of information that helps you support your loved one and respects your caring role, so risks or situations to avoid, signs of deterioration, who to contact, what part you should play in the recovery or any 'crisis' plan, appointments people need to attend etc.

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NikNikSenior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 8:21 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Any tips for @YTT, @JonCarer ?

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KS2809Casual Contributor26 Sept 2017, 8:22 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

Thanks for the link. They have some great resources!

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Shaz51Senior Contributor26 Sept 2017, 8:24 pm AEST

Re: Topic Tuesday // How being a carer changes once your loved one turns 18 // 26 Sep, 7pm AEST

They have some great resources! -- I agree @KS2809, @JonCarer

Hello @Kesa, are you around tonight xx

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