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utopiaSenior Contributor27 Aug 2017, 3:34 pm AEST

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Well I'm finally home (again).
4 hospital stays in 91 days. Wow. No wonder it feels so strange to be in my own house again. Adjusting will take time. Cooking for myself will take time.
My house is in the same condition in which I left it. A pigsty. So no one room has warmth and charm to lift my mood. Will have to slowly start cleaning up - one room at a time.
I did go and watch my son play soccer in the finals. I'd been so sick this year - thst it was the first game I had been to all year. His team lost. But they play again next week. So still stand a chance of playing the grand final.
My son is still living with my mum. Has been since the end of April. Hopefully he will see how much I've improved on my new anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. Then he may choose to come home soon.
Was up and doing the washing early this morning. But now reading a book in bed.
Am very bored. But have AA Meeting tomorrow night.
And I have my WorkCover IME (independent Medical Examination) - psych interview with a tough psychiatric on the 30th of this month. Think it could be on Wednesday. And then I have my much waited for Psychologist appointment. Can't see him when I'm in hospital (too far away).
So that's it for now. A new thread for a new beginning.
@Zoe7 @soul @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Bast @oceangirl @outlander @Former-Member @Teej @BlueBay @Owlunar

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utopiaSenior Contributor08 May 2018, 12:52 pm AEST

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@eth @Owlunar @Appleblossom @Faith-and-Hope.
I think it's important to share these stories. Both of racism and perceived racism & the struggles that sometimes occur due to the colour of skin.
My son and his friend (son anglo indian. Friend anglo Japanese) went to a football training session specifically targeted towards those from non English speaking backgrounds.
The boys discovered reverse racism. They were perceived to be too white. The coaches concentrated on the other boys and my two were left out of a lot of the activities.
I thought it was a good learning experience for both boys as to what some people experience on a daily basis.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor08 May 2018, 1:03 pm AEST

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I experienced racism towards my daughter over a bilingualism issue ..... was gobsmacked ..... but it gave me a taste of what my hubby and his family experienced when they immigrated here ..... the Australian “welcome mat” as it was then ...... sheesh !!

And that is what our First People are subject to in their own country ..... First. People. Here. ...... original land-keepers ...... it’s not rocket science .....

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ethSenior Contributor08 May 2018, 1:17 pm AEST

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It's a real shame the boys had to experience that @utopia. Racism is racism which ever way it goes. Sorry for your daughter's experience too @Faith-and-Hope.

Thankyou so much for your thoughtful words @Appleblossom and beautiful flowers again. I've had to revisit my story so often in recent times between therapy and reports/statements for the hearing, one more time can't hurt. It means a lot to have compassionate feedback as opposed to none, telling it here does help.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor08 May 2018, 1:29 pm AEST

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I am glad to hear that @eth ..... 💜

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utopiaSenior Contributor08 May 2018, 1:36 pm AEST

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@eth. It gave me a chance to talk to the boys about racism. How it felt. What it might be like to experience that on an everyday occurance. I think the boys got more from it than they would have if we'd just spoken on the subject and they hadn't experienced it first hand.
They are used to a certain amount of joking around by their friends about their heritage. But both boys just say it how it is. Explain and move on.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor08 May 2018, 4:51 pm AEST

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Glad you agree with the topic @utopia Given it was not too distressing and the boys had each other and you to process it with, maybe you all managed to turn it into positive social learning.

Glad you are alright @eth

Hey @Owlunar @Faith-and-Hope

The mood about diversity of race is very different now to what was standard fare 1960s etc, but its not all progress if things get too heated too quickly, without issues being worked through.

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utopiaSenior Contributor08 May 2018, 7:18 pm AEST

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A lot of racism in our larger nearby town @Appleblossom. New refugees from 2 countries and a growing muslim culture. Such a shame.
But then there are amazing people who organise cross cultural events. Lots of delicious food to try. Wonderful people to meet.

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utopiaSenior Contributor09 May 2018, 3:10 pm AEST

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Getting really irritated. Getting anxious. Getting bloody annoyed.
Mums appointment was for 1.50pm. We drove through the worst traffic jam ever (union protest) but still made it here on time.
Just asked the clerk when mum will be going in. She said the doctors were late and didn't get here til 2.30. I said so why didn't you tell us. She said, in her smarmy voice 'everyone knows theres a wait each time you come here. I said we've never been here before, so how would we know if you haven't bothered to tell us.
I said, you still haven't said when my mum will be seen.
She says - oh there's 3 in front of her.
Then the first doctor comes out and takes a patient in.
Doctor got here one hour late. Then don't take the first patient for another 30 minutes.
And this chick at the counter doesn't have any customer service skills to let us know there is a long delayStill waiting for mum to go in.

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BlueBaySenior Contributor09 May 2018, 3:17 pm AEST

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That's so frustrating @utopia. Terrible customer service the receptionist has. I hope your mum gets seen soon.
BB xx

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utopiaSenior Contributor09 May 2018, 3:40 pm AEST

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Still waiting and it's 3.37.
I'm so f***ing beyond irritated. Want to scream.
Barely holding it together.
Mum suggested I go for a drive to calm down.
I said irritation and driving don't mix.
And there's a chance I would get in the car and drive away for ever

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