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Hi @utopia

Those ideas sound pretty good to me - I need to congratuate myself more - I don't care what time I get up actually because I make up for time at night - but yes - getting up and starting the day instead of reading my books too fast sounds like a good idea

Let's see how we go together - I took a walk today - tidied the kitchen which was a real mess when I got up - emptied the litter tray - I hate do that because I have trouble bending over but I think how horrible it must be for the cat when I don't - I would hate it - what else? took all the rubbish out - Cooked pumpkin and parsnips with crumbed fish for dinner - that was a new meal - sometimes I wish I could find a book - recipes for one - and perhaps I should write that myself - I have a few ideas but I am sure other people have their own preferences when they live alone

It seems you are coming to terms with your gloomy dx and I hope this is the case - I would argue with the therapist too - perhaps one reason I am not looking for another one right now - I am planning to go through the rotten annniversaries on my own again - I have before - I did last year

All the best Utopia - I know waking up must be pretty horrible - it is for me at this time of year - sending hugs

Dec

hugs @utopia

@Shaz51@Owlunar@Faith-and-Hope

Thank you.

Yes @dec - Ithink when our brain is getting used to all the negative talk we tell ourselves - that it's really important to up talk and celebrate all the little things we achieve. And not focus on what we didn't achieve.

Good mental health needs to be practiced all the time when we have a MI. At the moment this does not come naturally to me. So practice is going to be necessary.

My achiements today.

Out of bed - drove son to school for first day of his exams.

Fed dogs.

Checked on mums dog.

Drove sons gf to work.

Talked with son about his 2 exams today and how he felt about them.

Kept my cool and explained things clearly with regard to son breaking his grounding.

(did more than I thought).

that is a good day @utopia

talk and celebrate all the little things we achieve. And not focus on what we didn't achieve-- ye mr shaz does his at the end of the day , tells me what he has not achieve , but I try to tell him on what he has achieve

so sending you knowing hugs

Well done @utopia ❣️

@Shaz51 👋

@Shaz51 - Mr shaz is very lucky to have you.

Totally agree with talking up the small things, @utopia. It's been said of me that I am my own worst enemy. I'm trying to be my friend. So great to hear you sounding so much inspired after your psychologist appointment.

@Mazarita. Yes I've been my own worst enemy too. I self sabotage. Don't think I deserve to be better. And I've been listening to this negative self talk for too long.

Time to change.

@utopia, I associate these good ideas and attitudes with 'strengths based therapy'. It's what my Phams workers practised. Those two women helped me a lot over a couple of yers. I have come less far in the past four years than I hoped, but life is definitely better for trying to focus on what I am achieving, rather than indulging my cynical side as much (still a challenge).