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-Rayne-Senior Contributor
Hey, I just wanted to start a thread here in case there are others struggling with all the media crap around this postal survey. Everywhere I go in the community people are finding it really hard so I thought people here must also be.
I am.
Maybe we can just make a space to take care of each other. I feel that we really need to do that right now. This atrocity is going to continue for months.
xo
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QueenieSenior Contributor
Go for it @outlander. I'm all ears...
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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QueenieSenior Contributor
I can hear what you are saying here @outlander.
My answer is for you to 'label' yourself with whatever you feel comfortable. If you are attracted to both genders, I would classify you as 'Bi'. For instance, before I properly 'came out', I was actually married for the long haul so to speak to a male even though I obviously was also attracted to females. I then labelled myself as 'bisexual' despite not actually having any relationship with a member of the same sex.
After I left my ex-husband, I re-evaluated things in my life and what I wanted in a relationship. It turned out I wanted to be someone of the same sex.
Just remember, they are only labels. You be what you are the most comfortable with and classify yourself as.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
done my postal vote today
and of course its a yes
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QueenieSenior Contributor
I am not sure @outlander. I've always been attracted to the female form, well before I had a relationship with either sex. Having said that I sort of pushed my feelings aside because of the shame and stigma associated with being a lesbian. So I settled down and got married to a man. We had an okay relationship and yes, at first I was attracted to him too, so I guess you could've said I am bisexual. These days I feel I am being true to myself and am in a same sex relationship, so consider myself lesbian.
I don't know how you 'know' which to label yourself, or even if you have to. I think in these modern ages you don't have to feel the need to specify, or should I say, you shouldn't feel the need to specify. For me, I knew growing up and maturing into myself that I was more attracted to girls, even though I'd been with both so my choice was easy. I think you can be fluid with which gender you prefer too.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
so really the best way to find out it to jsut let things flow and see where they take me? @Queenie
if i end up with a woman and stay there then thats how itll be, the same with men...
i suppsoe you really dont know until you experience it do you or get strong enough feelings to go ok this is what i want to dont want
i suppsoe its still early days for me
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QueenieSenior Contributor
Just go with the flow @outlander. Don't sweat the small stuff! 🙂
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outlanderSenior Contributor
ok @Queenie ill try not to worry
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