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Bastless and Odin

Bastless and Odin

@utopia @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member @Queenie @Niqueeta

Dear all lovely people

Sometimes the greatest loss leads to another option. Although Bast has physically gone, the influence remains as strong as ever. My other furrbabies seem to have gone through the initial adjustment phase and are now stronger as a result. My A child certainly did handle the cat herd so well. All others tended to wander around lost as I did. Then the dynamic of feline leadership began to shift. -
They all needed cuddles as did I, and as they developed - my furrbabies commenced developing another strategy. My baby girl (rescue at 4 weeks) is currently holding the iron throne, although Oracle another early recue is in usurping role - he is deaf and to hear his interpretation of growling and mewling is phenomomel - somehow he knows.

I lost Bast 5 weeks ago and the pain remains raw.

We have adopted since a rescue Bengal, Odin of legendary fame. He is a 3 year old large brown spotted male, overweight and awkard at times. Odin has needed a great deal of support to adjust to his new home. He has been living in the partner's study and received a great deal of 1:1 support, protecting him from the "Crown of thorns developments" He is now catching up and has become my partner's new friend - for me I have bites and scratches that are still not healing well. It does not matter.

I still miss Bast and the TB has become necessary again. I am now trying to contend with the aftermath of the work pollution. I was (gererously) paid for by my work insurer to attend a psychiatric assessment.

Apparently I have been pushed over the line after 4 years of discrimination and abuse. The diagnosis is really difficult as it is permanent - BPAD2. It hurt to even right that down, I was simply trying to handle PTSD for what my work has intentionally done - it is truly fabulous to conceptualise that this can happen.

I have developed panic for the 1st ever time and am not coping well, anything that happened or is related has become a trigger. The horror just goes on and on.

Bastless and Odin

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Your Super Wonder Woman will keep your furbabies happy. Positive.
Good luck with the psychologist today. Maybe today you could open up a little and say something. I always feel better after talking to my psychologist. He helps clear my head.

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@utopia @Bast @Former-Member @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope

Hello All

My home furbabies have been fed and we 3 x 2 legged critters are going to settle with movie and a meal soon. So I am just popping by.

Today we had a glorious zoo day. Talking of furbabies.lol .. We saw so many. I will share a high-light here.

Last stop before home we went to a meerkat enclosure. It was getting cool and cloudy. There are 2 heat lamps. One little fella? was in typical upright alert pose with front paws on his chest under a lamp. His head was almost in the lamp but he held pose for ages amazing he or she wasnt toast. Under the other were 3 on all fours in a huddle. A possible family group as the smaller one was always between 2 larger, but they were sunning their backs not their pate. Squirming and huddling.

All of a sudden all meerkats in the enclosure raced to opposite end. A zoo keeper with barrell of food?? was walking about 50 metres away, but no, not for them. SO they all scurried back to position. I guess the upright one who hogged a whole lamp was the dominant one. There were others who who were scampering and randomly digging. I always love them they are so social.

A sadder note: Earlier we had seen a depressed looking vervet monkey. I sat about a metre away from him?. He reminded me of me and we had a "chat". His head was drooping low on his chest most of the time.They have elongate limbs and he was twisting himself into knots, would untie them and then twist slightly differently, often quite tightly. Seemed like anxiety but maybe I read too much into it. He was in the dejected pose when we arrived at the enclosure and for the whole time we were there. Stared off to the side of me but would not look directly at me whenever looked up. We just sat for 20 mins together with a glass pane between us.

A few months ago I was so enthusiastic about the vervet monkeys, but was warned they are also hierarchical and can be vicious to maintain status within the group. We have over a dozen roughly the same age. I will discuss it with a keeper. It was not alarming but noticeable. It was pure body language that spoke to me. Yes we have to be realistic about emotions and personalities even in animals.

Generally we had a beautiful day, though I am struggling internally. Thanks for tagging

Take care.

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@Appleblossom. I think it's so important to read the body language of animals. You may have picked up on a physical or mental condition before the zoo keeps have. So glad you were there to see his distress. Nor hopefully the vets can look him over and observe the enclosure and clan & make sure things are safe there.
Well done

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I actually think it was pretty ingrained for that individual. They have a hospital on site and vets and I will send an email. They encourage all such feedback as animal welfare a high priority, but maybe shortage of resources for animal psychoanalysis.

From what I picked up when I was doing the Monkey House is that these monkeys are very picky about who they are kind to, and sharply maintain all divisons. Not like the meerkats or wild dogs or zebras antelopes etc.

There was another monkey with larger build looking strong with open body language .. but also stretching out paws in dominance gestures.

It is what it is.

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