psychiatrist appt - terrified

Not at all @Former-Member. I'm pleased that you see me like @Appleblossom ...... I don't have much time to write g'day to her but have likeness all through what she writes.
She knows. She also knows I know she thinks like me. Tee hee hee !
@Former-Member you taught me to stop and smell the roses. Yes. Caring for my sons was monumental. It is very easy for me, ..... To brush that aside and say..... Hey you can do it too.
If I stop and stay still and focus ...... Well ..... That Is all I could do too. Focus on my posture. Posture my heart. Oh it doesn't matter ...... No.... Ille write because we are all together here but .... Like I've written ..... I'm an extrovert but my darling friend tells me that when my children were young I was a complete doodle brain but very very loveable and I always worried I wasn't doing the best for the kids.

And while we are here @Former-Member what I really like about the forums is that there's all these different ways of seeing a dilemma, when I first met you I thought oh ........ What a wonderful woman but she doesn't have a ' woman to hold her back, ' so much like I was and still can be like. It's called not having a mother to cherish you. When I read how you are with your children I feel that you cherish your children and maybe some of it is falling into your soul.
So if you focus on your posture.... You are doing wonderful

Hey LJ
The crooks will ALWAYS have a go at you, and do not do what I thought, that truth will be told & seen.

NO it never does. The bad guys KNOW how to play the system. AND family court IS JUST a circus it's not real court. SO, any lies he says on affidavit are taken as truth.

Tell your Psych to REPORT your trauma and THAT is the constant battering of this abuse father.

You're JOB is to look AFTER your kids. Mine got stolen 3 days BEFORE my hearing for MY custody & his rights to visits,

Hi @Jystme
Sorry to hear you've been thru the same 😞 my eldest got interviewed and told the lady that her dad used to get angry and giver her very hard snacks and they still saying he should have them over nights. It's terrifying.
Have you got your children back? Hope things are going smoother for you now
Lj

@Former-Member YES; 12 years after he stole them. My daughter had my dad's number & called him. Quite destitute, no money, she looked like a street kid. Never cared for they virtually had to fend for thrmselves. He didn't want them he only took them as blackmail so I would return.
And he never allowed me to see them even though the court orders stated I get access. He was a sociopath. He played the game & said the kids didn't want to come see me. And got away with lies.

Learn the family court game. It's just a game. It's not real court

I've learned it but could not save my kids. However I have saved many from the ENTANGLEMENT of family court.

And how to protect their kids. Heaps of others but nothing for me.
I formed a bit of a relationship with them for a while but they are a product of NURTURE. I do not like them.

@Former-Member
I've been IN FAMILY COURT for 12 years. I had a lawyer for 2 of those and he WASTED MY TIME. Making that one LAW rule; "where the children have been for 2 years is where they will stay.
BUT, it DID NOT stop me from representing myself and asking for the next 10 years to SEE my children. Mine ALSO was an emotionally, physchologically & then physically abuse man. And he DOESNT give a shit about the kids. He's doing it to HURT YOU. That's all.

Now it's time to put your BITCH FACE ON. And say it HOW IT IS. You are a battered wife and you fear for your children.

You need your Psychologist to write a report HOW ALL Domestic Violence offenders Ars CUT from the same cloth. They are ALSO compulsive LIARS.

And yes he's right CRIMINAL is a high burden of proof to convict him. It must be beyond reasonable doubt.

But in Faniky Court it's the "balance of probabilities"..
NOW your PSYCH can say these meds are for your PTSD. And you only get that from surviving a TRAUMA, where you felt you could not get out if or feared for your life..

AND the misrepresentations the HUSBAND gives are to prejudice the court against you. THE MOTHER.

You read through ALL his affidavits he's ever sworn. YOU WILL find placed he says tugs then on another he says that. You pick them. Perhaps only 1 or 2 instances.

THEN your lawyer makes a BIG STATEMENT. Your honour THE HUSBAND LIES. Pause then direct his honour to no 1 in his court file, para 13 second to last line . Pause until he reads. Then direct the judge to pull folder 3. Doc no x in HIS FILE turn to page 9 first paragraph. And wait. THATS IT

You show one example of him making a statement on one affidavit. ( which is sworn so it is accepted AS EVIDENCE) then you show another affidavit which is the opp of what he stated in the other AFFIDAVIT. Boom you have DISCREDITED HIM.

He will be pissed OFF. Remember they lie. I know my psychologist told me the whole cycle. I was on shock. WAS she spying on me? No she said it all the sane. Matters NOT what race, creed, religion, wealth or poverty, white collar workers, judges or factory workers they ALL do the exact same thing in their ABUSE.

Get your Psych to write a report that you are not crazy NOR have any disability caring for your children. Your treatments ARE for PTSD. She too can put in her report THAT you are suffering due to what you endured within the family. AND generally they do that to their wife. They will BE the same with the children. In her opinion the children are SAFER with you. And they will be in a loving environment.

TWO AFFIDAVITS to include with YOURS. It's time to FIGHT & get your team OFF THRIR ARSE it's your kid you are trying to save.

He has his big lawyers? AND they KNOW THE GAME? No way NOT AS well as I do. I was ripped off in family court - I PAID A HUGE PRICE. My children.
YOU DONT NEED TO PAY THAT. I've paid enough for all of us trust me.

SO you do that NOW kido, right NOW. You TELL THEM what you want they write about, AND to give their EXPERT OPINION - pull in FACT too from journals IF they must.

Same for the Psychiatrist. If the Psych wavers YOU jump up & down about NOT getting the medical care you should, and for your children either.

If you need me, you ASK anything. Together we will NOT allow him to bullshit his way in court

Has your lawyer got balls? We'll ASK HIM. From now OB we are ON the attack and we must DESTROY his "credibility" he's pretending he has .

Okay chick ??

Hi @Jystme thea,
Yeah the courts are crap... My lawyer tried to say that he had lied in his previous affidavits about certain things but the judge just stops her and says it's irrelevant. Also he always late with documents to the court and brings up stuff he hasn't put in his affidavits or applications and the judge always lets it in or arranges a seperate hearing for him. Now everything on hold for him waiting for the appeal to go through about the criminal trial. I'm just not coping with anything at the moment and had something else happen a few weeks ago, I'm exhausted in and out of e everything that's going on. If it weren't for these two I wouldn't be here. It's just all too much. I'm sorry you lost your babies, and that they suffered from the way they were not cared for. I'm just hoping that the courts will keep his visitation to daylight hours only.

@Former-Member

DO NOT have the hearing for the QUESTION of how/IF the children will start to have overnight STAYS until he has FULL custody.

Instruct your lawyer to ADJOURN THAT hearing on the basis of EXPERT witnesses giving evidence acceptable to the court by way of affidavit.
If YOUR LAWYER did NOT stand her ground ON the basis of his LIES. Ask her THIS; IF you do NOT DO YOUR job effectively AND do the work THAT COUNTS - I will NOT pay your bills. UNDERSTAND. It's SO EASY TO GET the judge to LOOK at the files IN those documents that ARE ACCEPTED AS EVIDENCE by the court! If she can't DO THIS BASIC THING then sack her before she bleeds any more money out of you!

I HATE it when these BLOOD SUCKING LEACHES charge the EARTH and they DONT DELIVER. I did just waft I told you to get your lawyer to do. The husband wanted me for intimidating him IN court thr hearing BEFORE; and for costs because I called a hearing AT SHORT NOTICE; and for an injunction because I went to the schools that (I had previously booked them to go to once reaching that age). My first CONTACT.

They WANTED me injuncted and SMASHED for ALKEGEDLY intimidating & threatening the bastard.

You CAN NOT BE discriminated AGAINST; for a disorder because of DV of the husband. Your PTSD meds DO NOT INTERFERE with your judgement nor impair you from being a good mother.

But YOUR anxiety IS for the SAFETY of the children. THE WHOLE ETHIC of Butterworths Family Law Act 1975 IS:- "In the BEST interests OF the CHILD"
and THIS is the reason you are before the Registrear or JR or Justice. AND; as the COURT PROMISES; as they knock ON THE DOOR and say;/ ALL RISE., (this is the promise they maje AFTER that)., all that have business with this court WILL BE HEARD.

That's why I pulled a hearing AT SHORT NOTICE, I had a Justice who WOULD NOT HEAR ME. At all, now a JUSTICE is higher than a JR - Judicial Registrar.

She was sitting for the week it was Thurs. so I quickly wrote up an application & affidavit. YEP hand written on paper I asked the Registrars desk to give me. I swore it, got it stamped - 4 copies. Original to the court. One each for his lawyer, one for the child advocate (bloody lying crook, he was "mates" with the lawyer for the husband. And did not represent the kids OR their best interests. And a copy FOR ME. Hint. I would take a train to Adelaide. Because I was there all day or the weekend t