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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor29 Mar 2021, 7:14 pm AEDT

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Hugs dear @Clawde 🤗🙏☺️

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Eve7Senior Contributor29 Mar 2021, 7:18 pm AEDT

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Hi @outlander

I am saddened to read your message about the letter and I am pleased your Pop has gone away for a few days.

i am sorry you feel worthless and I want to assure you that I certainly don’t think that about you and I can see many others value you a lot.

You are kind, considerate, loving, hardworking and a treasure in every way.

Please believe the positive attributes that we see in you and not the cruel negative lies.

Oodles of love hun

💜💖💙🤗💙💖💜

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Sans911Senior Contributor29 Mar 2021, 10:59 pm AEDT

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Oh @outlander, you are treated so appalling. And you are none of those things that have been said. Don't forget, it's written by someone who has dementia and whose cognitive ability is impaired. Also, he possibly knows that something is wrong with him, and is angry himself that he's loosing his health. And he may still be grieving the loss of his wife. So he's taking it out on the one closest who's sometimes restricting his freedom. It's not right or fair at all. You can't deal with this and your issues much longer.

I know which anniversary is coming up too. And you aren't responsible for that awful event. You were trying to protect your sister. Accidents happen.

I can't see you being that different here in the forums from real life. We all know how caring, kind, compassionate and generous you are. Try to believe us here, and not a letter full of venom, anger and hate.

I'm sitting here tonight with you sweetheart 💕💕💕💕

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor30 Mar 2021, 9:30 am AEDT

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@outlander I'm shocked about the letter - and hurt on your behalf. And I'm sorry that the treatment doesn't seem to be working, and also for your bad anniversary today... Am thinking of you very much and wishing for whatever you need to get through this. I agree with @Emelia8 that I wish you could stop your caring role.

Sending lots of 💙

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor30 Mar 2021, 5:34 pm AEDT

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@outlander 🙏💕🌷🌸💕

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Sans911Senior Contributor30 Mar 2021, 5:56 pm AEDT

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I understand even here today might not be a safe place for you @outlander but I do hope you're being treated with some kindness, dignity and respect. Thinking of you lil Sis ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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outlanderSenior Contributor30 Mar 2021, 9:01 pm AEDT

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@Shaz51 @Sans911 @Anastasia @NatureLover @Eve7 @Snowie @Emelia8 @Lee82 @Bellarose75 💜🌻💙

Im sorry i dont have many words atm, my brain is really frazzled and tired. I have so far avoided hospital. The fever has eased up but not feeling much better. The treatment meds give me really bad headaches, some dizzyness and neck and muscle aches as well esp since im taking it 4 times a day. Will see the Dr again on friday, she gave me phone appt today instead of me coming in thankfully.

Today bas been hard mentally and im trying to just get through today and the next few days as well. Thanks for thr tags and for being here

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Shaz51Senior Contributor30 Mar 2021, 9:03 pm AEDT