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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 Mar 2021, 1:27 pm AEDT

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@Snowie 💕

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SnowieSenior Contributor12 Mar 2021, 1:29 pm AEDT

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@outlander I'm sorry things are so difficult for you at the moment. It must be hard trying to deal with everything that is going on at the moment.

Around if you need to chat at all.

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor12 Mar 2021, 2:04 pm AEDT

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Hi beautiful girl, I'm sorry I'm not around...stuck in the office with lots of people wanting me 😔

Sending you live an an abundance of hugs 💕💞

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SnowieSenior Contributor13 Mar 2021, 10:07 am AEDT

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Good morning sis @outlander

Hoping your day goes well and there is some goodness in it.

Lots of love and hugs hon 💕💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor13 Mar 2021, 6:11 pm AEDT

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Its not overly good here. I tried to talk to family and it doesnt matter what i think is best. I have no say. Spoke about respite and hasnt gone well and was undermined again 'ill talk to him' ans now respite not even happening!
Im tired. Overwhelmed. Angry. Upset. I need a break from everything.
I may be quiet for a day while i just resettle myself. I just cant comprehend going from asking for help maybe having others on board to just being undermined and now nothing. I just cant.

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SnowieSenior Contributor13 Mar 2021, 6:18 pm AEDT

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@outlander sitting here with you sis 💖💖💖

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JynxModerator13 Mar 2021, 6:25 pm AEDT

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@outlander It's that much harder when its family too. I'm sorry that your experience and agency aren't being respected, you deserve better. Take care of yourself, you have our support

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Emelia8Senior Contributor13 Mar 2021, 7:44 pm AEDT

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Oh Li'l One ... You deserve so much better than that sweetheart @outlander

It really does concern me that you are treated with such disrespect and your wishes and needs disregarded so easily.

Sweetie ... do you think it may have come time that you took a step away from your caring duties? See what your Mum will do then! At the end of the day Outlander, your Pop is NOT your responsibility, he is your Mums. You do not have to remain as his full time carer, and its totally unfair that you are made to feel that you have no other choice.

Honestly Li'l One ... its time you made the decision to take care of your own health. You have tried so hard to get a little bit of extra support which would have enabled you to continue in your caring role. But all you ever get are roadblocks. Its coming to the point where you will have little to no alternative other than to give up your full time caring role for your Pop and also your siblings. You have been used for far too long ... and I hate seeing this.

I'm sorry if I am coming across as angry and upset ... fact is, I am. If it comes to a choice ... choose YOU sweetie! Take care of you. If you dont ... you cannot take care of anyone else either.

Emelia 💕

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Shaz51Senior Contributor13 Mar 2021, 8:19 pm AEDT