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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor10 Mar 2021, 12:39 pm AEDT

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@Emelia8

@outlander

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Unknown userMember10 Mar 2021, 3:38 pm AEDT

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Sorry to hear that you are in so much pain @outlander Love and hugs to you. 💖

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SnowieSenior Contributor10 Mar 2021, 5:51 pm AEDT

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Good evening sis @outlander

I hope today has gone well for you and that your pain has not been too bad.

Lots of love and hugs sweetheart 💕💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor10 Mar 2021, 7:28 pm AEDT

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its been an easier day committment wise @Emelia8 not as much to do but got a few things i needed to do done like bill paying, chemist run etc.
the specialist reception can be a little slow but i called and then emailed to have the refferral corrected plus ask about altering. i havent heard back yet. i went to the chemist and spoke with the pharmacist about a stronger numbing gel and i have it but it hasnt worked that well. it makes my skin itch and tingle and feel weird but doesnt stop sensations or pain so i dont know, i just paid 40 for a small tube of it to find out it hasnt helped much

im glad youll be reimbursed for the prosthesis but its so good you have something suitable and comfortable too.

@Sans911 @Snowie @Appleblossom @Former-Member

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outlanderSenior Contributor10 Mar 2021, 7:46 pm AEDT

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i have a hard convo coming up and i dont think its going to go well

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SnowieSenior Contributor10 Mar 2021, 7:51 pm AEDT

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@outlander I'm sorry to hear that hun. Sometimes those difficult conversations are hard to have, especially when we think they are not going to go well.

Here for you too sweetie 💕💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor10 Mar 2021, 7:57 pm AEDT

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i spoke with one of the aged care teams that do assessments to see i can get respite, they will be doing an assessment within the next 4 weeks however if pop doesnt agree to it, it doesnt go ahead and they put all the files to the side and then thats basically it for me until he can no longer be classed as being able to make decisons for himself. i have to talk to him at some point about it and it also mens mentioning nursing homes. there are no other options except nursing homes here. so he has to first be assessed as ive managed to convince them of that at least and then i have to try and get him on board which wont happen

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor10 Mar 2021, 8:02 pm AEDT

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I can see why it is a difficult one @outlander

I had a gf much older than me, and she did not mind the initial respites as she saw it as her way to check out all the different places, before making her decision when she really did need to go into hi care. Maybe that is an angle that pop could handle. He might be in the checking things out phase for years, he also miught like what he sees with lots of company and activities ... idk ... its only short periods he does owe you a little respite I would think.

I have never been into much over the counter chemist stuff ... mostly over priced & over rated imo.

Take care

Apple

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SnowieSenior Contributor10 Mar 2021, 8:14 pm AEDT

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@outlander that does sound like a hard conversation to have and I am sure there will be some difficulties.

There is no easy way to approach a subject like that.

Can your mum help you with the conversation at all?

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outlanderSenior Contributor10 Mar 2021, 8:26 pm AEDT

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no tbh @Snowie i tried asking twice already for help but it seems like im going to have to do it. doesnt seem like anyone really wants to help me at all. cant even mention the topic in front of him let alone actually talking to him about it.
when i was speaking to one of the assesor people i said id really mostly like even 3 days to recover after day surgery and she said you know what i would even say like a week so you can rest and recover and then enjoy yourself for a day or 2. she even said i would try for a night or 2 before then so he could just see how he went.
i really could do with a break but doesnt seem like its going to happen tbh. im going to have to fight every step of the way not only with him but with other family members as well. once they find out i think itll be like me fighting a war on my own 😞

@Emelia8 @Sans911 @Appleblossom

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