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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 2:36 pm AEDT

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it can be hard @Bunniekins its something that i struggle with as well. it can take some time to be ok with
what about writing notes and handing it to them? do you think that could help?

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SnowieSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 2:40 pm AEDT

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Yeah not good timing @outlander but cannot do much about it. This friend lives interstate so cannot do much but call and support her. I think I have had enough bad news lately. I don't think I can handle any more.

How is your day going hun?

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 2:45 pm AEDT

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@outlander Omg I am not sure. That would be hard as it would be there in black and white what I have done but I know I have to tell some one so my mental health nurse (who is wonderful) might be the right person. I have so much baggage which I have to lift off my shoulders.

I am not a bad person (I hope) but I have done some bad things when I was acutely ill.

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 2:58 pm AEDT

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@Bunniekins i definently dont think your a bad person even if youve done bad things.
you dont have to write everything all at once, just start with one or 2 things that youd really like off your chest

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 3:05 pm AEDT

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@outlander there are two things that I have done ..... maybe three when I was really sick. I remember them when I try very hard and I know they are not in my imagination. One I can talk about as I have done today with ex the other two Idk one I dont think I will ever be able to talk about as it involves another who I cannot break the trust. The thing is that even though it is all in the past it bothers me and keeps resurfacing. I cannot get rid of them until I can freely talk about them

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 3:07 pm AEDT

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calling to support her or things like getting flowers or a gift basket sent to her house might not seem like much but it would mean alot to her. i think youve been through enough already, lets hope the rest of this year will work out ok!

days going slowly. bene and done all the horses just watching a movie till i get the kids. going to take them shopping so they can use their gift cards from xmas and birthdays.
have a crappy cough still though so hopefully it settles soon before i go out

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 3:10 pm AEDT

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@Bunniekins
it makes it tough when you cant break the trust of someone. Is there a way to word it by just saying 'you and someone in your past done..." that way you could still talk about it but without names and without the relationship stauts ie not saying you and your friend etc just you and someone else

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 3:17 pm AEDT

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@outlander yes I could. That would work. I would have to be careful but I will do it because it is eating me up inside. You know what I mean?

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 3:20 pm AEDT

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yes definently @Bunniekins i understand excatly what you mean

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SnowieSenior Contributor20 Jan 2021, 3:21 pm AEDT

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Hoping the cough settles for you soon hun and it is not something worse @outlander

A movie sounds nice. I took my kids the other day to spend their vouchers and xmas money.

Think S still has one voucher to spend. D was a typical teenager and spent all of her's in one day!!

Better go finish the washing. I hope the rest of your day goes ok for you.

Talk soon sweetheart 💞💞

@Bunniekins 💜💜

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