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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Apr 2020, 12:25 pm AEST

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morning/afternoon everyone
@Sans911@Former-Member@Lee82@eth@Bunniekins@Appleblossom @Former-Member @HakunaKhunz @Maggie @CheerBear and everyone 💜💜💜

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Sans911Senior Contributor28 Apr 2020, 12:27 pm AEST

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Hey lil Sis @outlander 💜 💜 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Apr 2020, 12:30 pm AEST

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hey sis 💜💜
how are you? I seen you were up early-a 4 legged furbaby wake you up again? did you manage to get back to sleep?
@Sans911

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Sans911Senior Contributor28 Apr 2020, 12:38 pm AEST

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No extra sleep this morning @outlander. It just didn't happen.

Mr A is outside now, so it might be a good time to vacuum. And my support worker will be here so I have to get out of my pj's. We'll probably take a small walk to the take away cafe and get a decent coffee.

How are you today? Did you get any sleep yourself?

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Unknown userMember28 Apr 2020, 12:42 pm AEST

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@outlander 💖 Hello my friend

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Apr 2020, 12:52 pm AEST

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that's abit of a bugger @Sans911
a walk to get a decent coffee sounds like a good idea! I hope your support worker will be helpful as well if you need to talk about anything.

I got abit of sleep. im still very tired though. I keep getting dizzy spells

I know I shouldn't be getting frustrated at pop but his repetition, inability to do some simple things and forgetfulness is getting to me abit today. I have to take him to the drs for immunisation upgrades and to get a blood test refferral in another hour or so but will be careful driving. I have to get them to change the number to my phone because he was on the phone about an hour ago and he doesn't remember what he was suppose to be doing (I already know thankfully) im trying not to get frustrated but im not being overly successful and if I ignore him or give a basic answer he thinks im yelling at him and then he rings my mother

im out of the milk I can have since last night so haven't even had a cup of tea today, I cant even send pop up because he doesn't understand and will just get the milk he drinks (which I cant drink even before trying lactose free) so ill have to get that while im out as well
and the horses but ill probably skip that today
and the kids for a few hours...
and I think my mother is coming over here to do exactly what I asked her not to do as well so feeling abit 'meh'

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Apr 2020, 12:54 pm AEST

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hey @Former-Member

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Unknown userMember28 Apr 2020, 12:59 pm AEST

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You are doing a fantastic thing with your pop @outlander , I work in aged care and let me tell you that there are very few family members supporting their loved ones the way you do and they a healthy and whole!! I understand your frustration and please don't be too hard on yourself you really are doing the best you can. Sending you gentle hugs my friend

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Sans911Senior Contributor28 Apr 2020, 3:24 pm AEST

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Oh @outlander frustrations all around you. Hopefully you get a little break later today and some time to breath. My support work has just left. It was good to talk to him.

I'm just about to hang out some washing. I'd like to change my sheets and finish the vacuuming but not sure if I have energy for all that. See how it goes.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Apr 2020, 3:48 pm AEST

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Thanks @Former-Member 🌻💞

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