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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:00 pm AEST

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@Eve7

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outlanderSenior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:03 pm AEST

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my car stalled on the offramp on the freeway with kids in the car so was scary and then stalled again on the way home thankfully there was somewhere to pull over. a bus driver and another car helped me to push it up onto the curbside gutter off the ramp

@Snowie @Eve7

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Eve7Senior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:13 pm AEST

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That would be very scary @outlander and I am so pleased someone came to your assistance. Is your car going ok now? Hopefully nothing major wrong with it hon. Are you calmer now or are you still trying to pull yourself together? That's the sort of incident that can cause us to go over lots of "what if this had happened..." Take care.

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outlanderSenior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:17 pm AEST

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i was worried someone was going to hit my car with the kids in it so i got the kids to a safe place and got my sister to call my step dad while really desparatley trying to get it started again enough to move it off the road @Eve7

im not sure whats wrong with it yet but i cant even take it to the mechanics otherwise ill have to tow it unless they come to me.

i think it might be the petrol that i put in. i havent had anything mechanically wrong with it until i put some petrol in at a place i dont normally go so i think it has something to do with the petrol we are going to siphen petrol out and change the fuel filter and put petrol i know is ok and see how it goes. my sister said i can borrow her car for now cause she doesnt need it unless shes going for a driving lesson.

i was shaking really badly. of course i got yelled at and said to stop shaking because i was alright. ive settled more now that i have the car home and know i dont have to drive that car till we get it fixed now.

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SnowieSenior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:23 pm AEST

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oh no @outlander that would have been scary for you.

Good that there were people around to help you.

I am glad everybody is safe and that you are home now.

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:24 pm AEST

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Oh @outlander I just read what happened, I'm not surprised you were scared and shaking hun I would have been too! Sorry that happened to you. Sending you the biggest hug xxx 💐🌸🌷

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outlanderSenior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:26 pm AEST

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me too @Snowie
im really hoping itll be an easy fix. i got quoted 900-2200 to have the rest of the repairs done (full total is 2200 but the main one is 900) so its quite stressful atm esp since i cant get a care loan, and have so many other bills to pay off too esp the hospital ones. im going to aim to work out what this problem is keep the car for 3/4 months and then see where my credit rating is at and hopefully pay off most of the loans i have so i can get another one

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outlanderSenior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:28 pm AEST

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thanks @Anastasia im glad im home now

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Eve7Senior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:36 pm AEST

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I am glad you are home now too @outlander safe and sound. Cars can be such a worry...an expensive worry at that so I am pleased you have a car to use in the meantime.

Anyway, have a stiff (virtual) drink!

Angels watching over you today xox

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SnowieSenior Contributor10 Sept 2020, 6:38 pm AEST

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Hopefully it will be an easy fix hun @outlander and won't cost too much money to get it fixed.

Can you do something nice for yourself tonight, you have had a stressful day.

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