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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor01 July 2020, 9:50 pm AEST

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@Sans911 💜

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Lee82Senior Contributor01 July 2020, 9:54 pm AEST

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@outlander How you doing hun?

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 July 2020, 10:07 pm AEST

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Do you want to talk about anything? @Sans911 im ok to listen and chat if it would help too

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 July 2020, 10:09 pm AEST

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Im just managing the best i can @Lee82 kind of short on words on myself atm but thank you for asking 💖

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Lee82Senior Contributor01 July 2020, 10:16 pm AEST

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Sending you lots of hugs @outlander 💕💗💕

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Sans911Senior Contributor01 July 2020, 10:27 pm AEST

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I'm just a bit more triggered and upset with my mother @outlander. She said some hurtful and invalidating things to me yesterday following on about what I posted Monday. I just feel she's put her own feelings and need for approval above my own needs and level of discomfort. I thought I could ignore it all and push it away but I can't. Bringing up how I feel with my mother won't make me feel better, I'll just get more and more angry. But right now I'm so conflicted because I'm trying to be that nice daughter, yet I am so angry and hurt.

I actually have contacted a specialist service for some urgent counselling. It's only 4 sessions but it might be enough. Waiting on approval. Regular counselling is a 6 to 9 month wait!

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 July 2020, 10:29 pm AEST

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thank you @Lee82 sending love and hugs back to you too

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 July 2020, 10:33 pm AEST

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im sorry about your mother and the way she acts. i know its not the same thing but i understand abit because of my own mother. its hard to be that nice and caring daughter esp when its the last thing we feel.
You have every right to feel hurt and angry. im sorry that you have gone through so much too. @Sans911

Im glad that you contacted a service for urgent counselling, i hope that youll be approved quickly. 4 sessions isnt much but hopefully it will be enough to set you on a better path for now. 6-9 month wait is ridiculous! can you get the gp mhcp up and running so you can get in to another counsellor quicker and/or more regularly?

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Sans911Senior Contributor01 July 2020, 10:49 pm AEST

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My mother rang just now about the car insurance (she's had some problems). I didn't really want to talk to her much.

I think I'll be OK with the 4 sessions that they might offer. I can wait for the other sessions. I've been not dealing with it for almost 40 years. I just need to get this stuff out of my system. The wait will give me time to pysch myself up to dealing with the problem.

@outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 July 2020, 10:56 pm AEST

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im not surprised you dont really want to talk to her much atm @Sans911 sounds like you need abit of space from her for now just as a breather.

do you know how long it normally takes to hear back about whether youve been approved?

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