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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 May 2024, 2:34 pm AEST

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i still have sooooo much to do in the house @Snowie i know theres progress being made with every tip or donation run but sometimes it really doesnt feel like it at all.

ive got a household clean up booked and i already have 40 bags plus some furniture to put out to be collected. itll save me a couple of tip runs at least.

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 May 2024, 2:39 pm AEST

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Just room by room hon @outlander You are getting there. Look how far you have come from when you begun.

Thats good if you don't have to go to the tip. They are so expensive these days too.

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 May 2024, 2:41 pm AEST

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its very slow but getting there @Snowie i honestly cant believe how much is coming out of the house though. so much rubbish or stuff thats been hoarded.

in my area i get 2 house hold cleanups a year. ive already used one though so i only have one left till july. so all of july ill have to take stuff to the tip or fill the trailor up with the bigger bags like im doing now until im able to get some more free pick ups. i may be able to see if mum is eligible for a few cleanups and use her house address

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 May 2024, 2:46 pm AEST

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Thats good about the free household clean ups @outlander

We get 2 trips to the tip for free per year but that's it.

Might be a good idea if you can use your mums address, especially if she's not using them.

I's amazing the things that come out of a house, especially if they are into collecting things. I am dreading cleaning up my MIL house when she passes. She is a hoarder.

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 May 2024, 2:53 pm AEST

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Oh we don’t get the 2 tip runs only the household cleanups but they usually restrict how much they’ll take. It’s only suppose to be a standard size trailer load but I’m going to put it all out anyway and whatever they don’t take I’ll take to the tip myself. I’ll just be glad to have half of it taken.

Grandparents have lived in the house for over 30 years here so that’s plenty of time to hoard things that’s for sure

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 May 2024, 3:01 pm AEST

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They do seem like they did a good job of hoarding @outlander especially when they live in the same house for so long.

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outlanderSenior Contributor18 May 2024, 4:42 pm AEST

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very true @Snowie
i got abit more cleaning done and have managed to clean out a small cupboard to give away now so one less thing out of the house soon. means more rubbish and more donations though!

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SnowieSenior Contributor18 May 2024, 6:04 pm AEST