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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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fluffylightSenior Contributor23 Oct 2023, 5:17 pm AEDT

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Hi @outlander
Hearing that you are trying your best 💖
Sitting with you 🙂

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 Oct 2023, 5:30 pm AEDT

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thanks @Snowie @fluffylight

im just tired and over life

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fluffylightSenior Contributor23 Oct 2023, 5:37 pm AEDT

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I get that, life can be like that sometimes @outlander

Whats going on? 🙂

Holding lots of space 💛

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SnowieSenior Contributor23 Oct 2023, 5:38 pm AEDT

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Can understand that @outlander

Sometimes life is just too damm hard.

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 Oct 2023, 6:07 pm AEDT

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I’m trying to hold onto hope that I can build a more “normal” life soon. One where I’m not responsible for so much family and can do things when I want to without needing to constantly ask for help or making so many arrangements just for one day.

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fluffylightSenior Contributor23 Oct 2023, 6:42 pm AEDT

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Oh @outlander I'm sending you so many hugs your way 💛
You are not alone in this, we are here for you and can hear how much you are holding 💛

Responsibility with family can be so tough, I am a carer at home and I find it hard to find care for myself amongst all this.

I can hear that you are holding onto so much and things are sounding like its not going your way right now.

Please know that I am sitting right with you 💛

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 Oct 2023, 7:11 pm AEDT

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its hard @fluffylight the person i care for is waitlisted for so many places at the moment but a spot cant come fast enough. im going to see if i can extend the respite services but theyre already pretty booked up.

i feel so selfish for it and i know itll be an uphill battle when theyre is a placement avalaible but i cant keep doing this and its only getting harder now that i have a job he cannot come to which means having to ask and hope family will help more even if they do whinge about it all the time

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Eve7Senior Contributor23 Oct 2023, 7:31 pm AEDT

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Let them whinge away @outlander it’s time they realised how much you do and high time they pitch in and help.

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fluffylightSenior Contributor23 Oct 2023, 7:33 pm AEDT

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I'm sorry that receiving help has been slow, it sounds like it is something that is needed for this person you are caring for and for you as this will help ease some of the load you have had @outlander 💛

I can hear how hard this all is on you 💛 It sounds unfair that you are placed as the main person for caring.

I can really resonate with what you are sharing with the selfish feeling. You are recognising all the ways that it's getting harder on you, thank you for sharing 💛

How are you caring for yourself? I wonder if you do have time for this.

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outlanderSenior Contributor24 Oct 2023, 9:00 am AEDT

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i try @Eve7 it gets so draining though. every couple of days i seem to add to the waitlist when companies reply to me and i get a chance to put through the application paperwork that they request.
i hope within the next 3 months there will be a placement.

ive just been offerred a really good opportunity but its going to take more time away from my carers role but i dont want to give up yet another opportunity

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