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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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tymeModerator28 Sept 2023, 8:03 pm AEST

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That sounds great @outlander ! Phew! What a relief! I hope it takes some of the pressure off you. You absolutely deserve this reprieve. Congrats, once again.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Sept 2023, 8:04 pm AEST

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i hope so too @tyme hopefully next year i can commit even more to these new companies and work longer or more hours and be able to accept more clients on board

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tymeModerator28 Sept 2023, 8:09 pm AEST

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It's so good to keep busy. Honestly speaking, work was what kept me well when I was in the darkest moment. Work made me get up. It gave me responsibility. It gave me independence in that I earnt money @outlander

I sense it is similar for you.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Sept 2023, 8:21 pm AEST

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being busy has been good for me in a way @tyme but its been a deflecting mechanism. i cant be still, i am constantly running from my demons. i literally am so uncomfortable being still that i cant be still unless im sick then i can be still sort of. its something im working on but then i go and get 2 new jobs lol. but even my psych saw this change as a positive even though it means more work. think this ones a positive change.

im tiring abit though. but when i get there im ok unlike my other workplace where my faigue just gets worse and worse and i barely function midway through a shift.

i also got a new medical diagnosis which does explain alot but its another lifelong again

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tymeModerator28 Sept 2023, 8:31 pm AEST

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You are such a battler @outlander .

I found it hard to sit with my own thoughts too. Keeping busy is good. But I needs to be something you find rewarding. I'm glad you are moving on.

Tomorrow is a public holiday in Melb. I'm going to go and clean my other house. It's been sitting vacant for years now, and I met someone who really needs a place. So I'm going to clean it so this person can move in. I told him it's for a trial period to see if it works for him. He's had a really difficult life with drugs and all and just wants to get clean. I know it sounds risky, but something is telling me to give him the house.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Sept 2023, 8:35 pm AEST

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i hope so i really hope its the best decision @tyme

our public holiday is on monday and ill be working. yay lol.

i hope the person needing a house is a right fit. it sounds like a nice thing your doing

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tymeModerator28 Sept 2023, 8:46 pm AEST

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I said it's only for a trial to see if he's okay living on his own @outlander . I think he was a good kid that just got caught in the wrong crowd.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Sept 2023, 8:52 pm AEST

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Sometimes a person just needs the right opportunity to get on the better path @tyme

Why has that house been vacant instead of selling or leasing it out?

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tymeModerator28 Sept 2023, 8:58 pm AEST

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I didn't want the house wrecked. Then with all the 'renter's rights', I didn't want to put it for rent. So it's been empty for about 5 years. People keep telling me to rent it out, but I didn't want to @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Sept 2023, 9:28 pm AEST

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Oh ok @tyme I hope maybe it works out ok. It’s good it’s only a trial

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