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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 5:14 pm AEST

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You have accomplished a lot today @outlander Well done!

I hate washing, it feels like a never ending job. Just when I've done it all, more clothes end up in the basket. I think D wears something for two hours and puts it in the wash!!

I have had the tv on in the background but not really watching it. Day time tv is so boring so a movie sounds like a good idea.

Do you have anything to do tomorrow or is it just work?

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 6:05 pm AEST

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i have school run but has to be there at 730 tomorrow , horses then come back get pop ready for his appt and then work in the arvo @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 6:12 pm AEST

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Thats early @outlander for the school run.

Sounds like it is quite a busy day. I hope you Pop's appt. goes ok.

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 6:19 pm AEST

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its just physio @Snowie and she comes to the house so it still gives me a chance to keep doing the washing etc. im onto my third load now but i think this will be the last one cause by the time it comes out of the dryer itll be nearly bed time lol

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SnowieSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 6:24 pm AEST

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Thats good that they come to the house @outlander Saves you from driving him somewhere.

My mum just got approved for some help for herself. She can have someone come in and clean it for her. They are also putting some rails up and a few other things to help her out too.

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 6:31 pm AEST

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thats really good @Snowie at least itll take some of the stress of you as well to have her own supports

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SnowieSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 6:36 pm AEST

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It is good for her @outlander She has a lot of arthritis in her hands which makes it difficult for her to do a lot. We still have to wait to see what she is entitled to from her dementia, but it has to be officially diagnosed by a specialist.

Three loads of washing is great work! Hopefully it will all be dried before you go to bed.

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 6:40 pm AEST

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hopefully that can be sorted soon @Snowie

itll be done in about an hour i think. so by the time dinner is sorted it should be close to ready. im not folding lol thats a job for another day but at least its a start

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SnowieSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 7:04 pm AEST

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It is a good effort @outlander The folding can wait. I just have to wait for things to dry and then give them an iron. I think I hate ironing more than anything else!

Hopefully you can get an early night. I don't think I will be long out of bed.

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Aug 2023, 7:17 pm AEST

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i could not imagine ironing on top if washing and drying @Snowie

i think ill be in bed early too. so amny shift changes is making it tricky to get a sleep schedule

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